As someone with ADD, who loves cinema, I don't know that I can relate to your question. Personally, I don't know that frantic movies with a lot of action and cuts really helps. And even even with the most staid, mellow Merchant-Ivory costume drama, there are still frequent cuts between shots that keep the picture changing. Self medicating with a little bit of caffeine (and putting away my phone) is generally enough for m to get through any movie. I'm low key wondering if your man is just maybe using this as an excuse to get out of watching the movies you're into (and he's not).