derfiese123 OP t1_j6hrbma wrote on January 30, 2023 at 12:36 PM

Reply to comment by imminentmailing463 in Was Banshees of Inisherin the wrong choice for a friend that deals with the loss of a pet? by derfiese123

yea, i've just seen the scene online, because i had to. i honestly expected it to be dark, similar to in bruges, but not too sad in any way. dang, i was looking forward to today. so best cancelling it?

imminentmailing463 t1_j6hrqy6 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 12:40 PM

The vibe is not dissimilar to In Bruges, but I'd say it's much bleaker. For me it's in that category of films that I thought were good, but I'll probably never watch again.

Community_74 t1_j6ht2iw wrote on January 30, 2023 at 12:53 PM

Not sure if it is bleaker, but i agree it's in the same category. If the idea of the movie night is to distract someone from loss, The Banshees of Inshireen is not going to help at all.

If they haven't seen Everything Everywhere all at once, i think that one would actually help for a few reasons. If you are ok watching a movie that didn't come out last year and want a comedy, there are a lot of options. I personally always enjoy watching the Big Sick or Little Miss Sunshine whenever I'm sad.

TyrelUK t1_j6i9es0 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 3:06 PM

Also Marcell the Shell with Shoes On

Fantastic_Deer_3772 t1_j6hushr wrote on January 30, 2023 at 1:10 PM

If there's another movie your friend might like, you can just say to her you realised it's not a comedy like you thought and would [other film] be better?

derfiese123 OP t1_j6hwj29 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 1:26 PM

yea, that's what i did. was thinking top gun: maverick? i just worry she still might insist on watching banshees because she knows i was looking forward for it.

BrightPractical t1_j6is1w8 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 5:08 PM

Can you just be direct about it? It’s really hard to tell what someone grieving needs. Sometimes it’s more grief, sometimes it’s cheer.