the thing that bugged me was that julia louis drefuss' character may have been obnoxious- but it wasn't on purpose. eddie murphy's character was purposely being a racist asshole- he deserved the dressing down he got at the ultimately cancelled wedding by the groom, but her character really didn't deserve the same type of vitriol. i'm not saying she was in the right, just that her "transgressions" weren't on purpose, and she was actually trying to be nice. eddie murphy wasn't.