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comefromawayfan2022 OP t1_jbqw7qs wrote

Reply to comment by posttheory in bill to ban gender affirming care for kids currently being debated by comefromawayfan2022

If I had let my family decide my mental health care based on "medical necessity" then id be dead...I came from a family that had absolutely zero belief in mental health care. I had to go to therapy in secret because when I first approached my mom about seeking therapy she laughed in my face and basically told me nothing was wrong with me(despite the fact that id been battling depression and anxiety for years at that point). When I told her at that point that I was 21 and I was telling her I was going to therapy and not asking her she basically told me if I proceeded with this shed sell my car(yeah she was abusive, controlling and a narcissist).

This is also the same parent who for years refused to let me get a professional diagnosis of depression as a kid because "I was just looking for attention"(turns out depression doesn't work like that)

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posttheory t1_jbr7dir wrote

Very sorry that happened. You're exactly right: the child's health needs should come first, including mental health. That's the necessity. And it applies to care and counseling for depression, anxiety, gender issues, dealing with bullies, whatever. No legislature should interfere.

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mmirate t1_jbrfiqa wrote

> living with parents at age 21

Yeah, that's a "you" problem.

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comefromawayfan2022 OP t1_jbrg7js wrote

I no longer live with them and we are minimal contact. But there are not exactly a whole lot of living options for adults who are on the autism spectrum and don't have the life skills to live independently or on their own with roommates..so my only choice at that point was living with my parents..add in emotionally abusive and narcissistic parents who guilt trip you and emotionally abused and manipulated you at the slightest talk of even moving out and it adds a whole new layer of complications to the living situation.

I moved out about a month after that and my parents sent the fucking cops to my new address to harass me and tried to get the cops to drag me home. Living situations are complicated when dealing with abusive and toxic folks

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