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NH is pretty cold. If you think WV or wherever you said in that long story is cold, NH may not be for you.

I'm not reading all that. I'm happy for you tho or sorry it happened

Ugh. Your poor husband and kids. "Did you hear? Mom doesn't like "insert anything", so we're moving 2000 miles away again"

this is a lot but nh should be fine for whatever weird nonsense you want to get after.

It's hard to make deep friendships in NH. The people are very nice, friendly, courteous. Yet they are always busy. As a person who, in adulthood, always had a couple of real, deep friendships and typically a friend group (less close) at any given time or place, I've been a fish out of water here.

I've resigned myself that I'm simply not going to have anything here but pleasant acquaintances. I've lived all over in the USA, but never find people simultaneously so pleasant and yet ultimately so distant.

Weirdly, most people I talk to about it agree... But still they aren't willing to move beyond whatever it is that causes this disconnect.

I thought it must be something weird about me, but other people feel the same way.

"Would you like to have coffee or go take an art class?"

"Yes, definitely! Here's my number!"

Call them..."How about Tuesday?" "Busy." "Wednesday?" "Busy." "Thursday?" "Busy." "Well, let me know if you get time."

Six months later they call, "Why don't you call me? I thought you wanted to go out for coffee?"

"I'd love to! How about Tuesday?" "Busy." "Wednesday?" "Busy." "Right, anyway, nice chat, see you around."

It's weird.

In my opinion NH is the best for “live and let live.” It’s got a pretty common sense people, everywhere has folks who are at one extreme or another and you’ll find that in NH too. Generally, the more south east you are you’ll find liberals and the more west and north you’ll find conservatives. But both groups are pretty decent to their neighbors. I have some neighbors that I’ve never met but others who are close friends. If folks want to be left alone… leave them alone. That could almost be the state motto

def not for you and you will burn your 3rd change.....this almost feels like a troll post, lol. You have too many opinions and already leave places when the going gets tough. NH is cold. On a more serious note, you should just visit. NH is small enough where everyone's opinion is possibly localized to their specific area so anything i say may not apply to another town or area. I would honestly recommend something in the south eastern NH where the major cities of MA/ME are relatively close. If you're going to be hermits, just look up the town with the least zoning rules so you can do whatever you want with your property.

Ok, NH fits most of what you are looking for.

Maybe check out the Greenville / Jaffrey area?

we relocated to NH last year after a lot of hunting around; I have previously lived in Wyoming as well. I think NH is a great place that is close to very concentrated urban areas while being astoundingly rural, if you want it to be.

I am a remote worker but I occasionally need to travel for work and while Boston is a very legit option for travel, since we are in SW NH I find hopping down 91 to Hartford (BDL) is so much easier... about 90 minutes of a straight shot on the highway, easy airport, a fair number of direct flights due to business travelers. with PreCheck and Clear I've found I can be from the parking lot to my gate in 10 minutes, which is pretty awesome.

I love that NH is a purple state with the entire gamut of opinions and yet people manage to coexist and get along, like we used to before the world went insane. So happy we moved here.

Try VT, Western MA or Maine.

"We are generally liberal leaning people..."

I'd suggest Vermont, particularly the Waitsfield area. It's close enough to Burlington and I-89. It's kind of a close, secluded community surrounded by mountains and the Mad River.

I’m a NOVA transplant living in NH. I like the Upper Valley a lot. There’s definitely towns more spaced out within a 30 minute radius from Lebanon and traffic isn’t as bad as further South.

It’s a couple hours drive to any major airport, but there’s a tiny airport in Leb that connects to Boston and White Plains, NY.

As with other parts of the state, housing supply can be tricky. Unlike NOVA, it’s less about high prices and demand and more a lack of turnover. If your search radius is 30 minutes from town, you’ll probably have at least some options that work.

I don’t know what WY is like, but our state does see plenty of cold weather. Winters last well into March and we usually see at least some snow into April. Finding some kind of winter activity you enjoy is a must.

We relocated back to NH in 2018 (I grew up here). I also work remotely and have to travel, albeit less now than pre-Covid. I live in the southeast corner of the state, just 15-20 min from Manchester airport and less than an hour from Boston. So it is very convenient in that regard, but because of that, I think real estate is on the more expensive side here.

I primarily fly out of Manchester since Boston does not have much for direct routes to where I typically fly anyway and is super easy to get in and out of. But far fewer routes and direct flights to choose from, so really depends where your husband flies to.

"Free agents" made me think you were some type of sovereign citizens, libertarians, or some other nonsense. Hopefully not the case.

Know that NH is one of the most educated states in the country and the least religious (measured by church attendance).

Lived in NOVA for 4 years (great falls) loved it...miss it terribly! It's colder here (always lived here or Maine prior to Nova). Would crack up at 50 degrees novas would be running around in giant puffy winter coats. Dress warm!

Nh fits! How far from a major airport is he willing to be? That's an important piece for sure. Its the difference between salem nh and looking at like, Concord or bow. I sent you a dm by the way!