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mellowMangos t1_iufjc31 wrote

If dating is a priority and you’re used to NYC, staying close to the seacoast will help the shellshock. I have a friend (30F) who has had success in Dover. But yeah, portsmouth, or honestly Portland ME is a good bet.

If you want to be closer to the mountains and really want to prioritize skiing etc, you could try North Conway - which who knows maybe in 100 years will be the Boulder of the East. But dating will be rougher.

If you are used to NYC life, there is a good chance you wont like like Nashua, Manchester, Concord etc. Blue NYC people move to the seacoast, with a few exceptions maybe in the richer part of the Lakes Region or North Conway, but often they’ll already have partners. Finding a partner on the seacoast and then moving towards the mountains is a decent strategy.

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chosen566 OP t1_iufjml4 wrote

Dating is def a priority, so def noted

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mellowMangos t1_iufk8ia wrote

The season is a crucial variable. The lakes region and many other areas inland are a paradise from June-August. Dating is muchhh easier in the summer in these areas, which completely die down in the off season. As in like the population drops by 75% at the end of summer for some towns.

If you are moving up in the late spring, summer - lakes region/N Conway might be fun. If winter, it may be lonely. Nearly all of my friends in that age range that move from NYC/Boston to these areas do Portland Maine or similar.

(as someone who has dated in both all areas mentioned I can confirm all of this lol - appreciate the options in NYC while you have them. Dating in rural inland areas in NH in the winter is brutal)

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chosen566 OP t1_iufktj5 wrote

I see, I don’t want to reside in Maine because of taxes but glad it’s close to Portsmoth

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mellowMangos t1_iufkztn wrote

yeah Portsmouth is expensive but is a one-of-a-kind town in NH imo. Like a rare area where if you live right in downtown you may barely ever need a car

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chosen566 OP t1_iufm8r0 wrote

I’m going to want to do a lot of skiing

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mellowMangos t1_iufmkp5 wrote

That’s where there isnt a way to avoid compromise. There is no inland place with a dating life that comes anywhere close to Portsmouth et al. You basically have to choose between dating and closer skiing. its not that bad though - like 90 mins to many good mountains.

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