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steelymouthtrout t1_iw8rupa wrote

No. Go get a restraining order against him and make him leave. He's one person and you are three or more. Make him move out.
Best of luck.

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Quirky_Butterfly_946 t1_iw8thny wrote

You could contact emergency housing in your area and explain your situation. Not that you are looking for emergency housing, but since you do face barriers to finding housing, they may know where you can go. If that does not pan out, try contacting local rental realtors (not something online) as they might know which places do not require certain amount of income to rent. Beyond that, perhaps just keeping an eye out for for rent signs posted.

If you can get a great reference from your current landlord, that does go a long way since it shows your ability to pay rent on time.

Personally, I hate how housing has become and how utterly ridiculous it has become just to find a place to live. Good luck

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Hot_Scallion_3889 t1_iw8thpm wrote

Battered women foundations should definitely have the resources to help you out or at least offer you a temporary solution until they do. I would suggest getting in touch.

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jcyr t1_iw8vncm wrote

Please consider reaching out to Haven. 24-hour confidential crisis support line staffed by trained advocates: 1-603-994-SAFE (7233)

https://havennh.org/get-help/ they can give you guidance in many ways.

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joostadood526 t1_iw8xpts wrote

Try North east apartments in Manchester. They have 3 bedroom duplexes. The rent is probably right around what you're looking for as well.

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-Codfish_Joe t1_iw8y0zc wrote

As an aside, I cannot believe what rents are these days.

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SquashDue502 t1_iw99o4q wrote

Replying to -Codfish_Joe (#521,448)

I lived in a 2bd/2bath in Miami (15 mins from downtown) last year for like $2850 and thought that was absurd. No shade to New Hampshire but I can’t believe it’s that desirable to live here that rent is more expensive than one of the most expensive cities in the US 😂

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iamanitwit t1_iw9flpu wrote

I’m so sorry for your current situation. Rents are beyond crazy. I live in the seacoast area and I rented an apartment sight unseen. Overpriced for sure, but time was running out for me. I wish you and your children the very best!!

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Future_Ad8467 t1_iw9fz31 wrote

I had read that because of the price of housing in general, that more than 98% of apartments are filled in Southern NH. I'm making due with a one bedroom for now and I sleep on a pullout when my daughter visits. I hate that she doesn't have her own room, but she's happy regardless.

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MiggySmalls6767 t1_iw9hout wrote

Check some of the winter rentals. They go until May/June and are usually furnished. I saw a 3 bedroom house for $2100 a month.

Not a long term solution but might be a good option to get out while you work on the legal front.

Also definitely contact NHLA. I worked for them for a few months. Great folks and they have a pretty sizable grant for women in abusive situations.

They can usually help with a fair amount of the legal side. Possibly even divorce work.

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lizyouwerebeer t1_iw9plpn wrote

Unfortunately I can't help with apartments but let me know if you need a good divorce lawyer recommendation!

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THE_GREAT_PICKLE t1_iw9x9z0 wrote

Replying to SquashDue502 (#521,954)

My wife and I lived 15 minutes outside of Boston for 3k per month for a 1 bed 1 bath before buying our house in NH. We’re paying less than our old rent for a 2 acre plot with a 3 bed 3 bath house, and we paid way over asking.

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FloridaVapes t1_iwa07io wrote

2 bed 1 bath at halstead countryside in Manchester was $2100 when I signed 2 months ago. Just a price heads up

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ryandarr1979 t1_iwa4i6v wrote

They’re building like crazy in Salem, Londonderry, Raymond, etc.

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ttdonedidit t1_iwacfo4 wrote

Where in southern New Hampshire? Somersworth has a few and berwick Maine too

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Raging_chihuahua t1_iwah2am wrote

Find a realtor. We do rentals. It’s free. The apartment companies pay us to find tenants. The landlords do also. If you need a referral just message me. I wish I could help you but my license isn’t in your state.

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DetailPlus t1_iwam4fv wrote

If you look at any of the Housing Authority websites or on HUD.gov, there may be some info there. Depending on what part of Southern NH you are looking in, there should be some help in Plaistow, Salem, Derry. You could also try 211.org or NAMINH for resources...as well as Community Action.

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sp1d3_b0y t1_iwamerc wrote

Replying to ryandarr1979 (#523,372)

dude don’t remind me about raymond, i hate it. All the trees are like gone, and there’s so many people here now compared to when i was a kid, it’s bullshit. I can’t even go to hannafords at 9 anymore without seeing at least 15 people

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RainbowRaider t1_iwapym3 wrote

Replying to Alternative-Mud3701 (#521,471)

I used to work in human services- Haven is actually really great! I’ve known people that works there and friends that needed to use their services.

If you enter as a domestic violence victim, you’ll be able to get stable, cheaper housing much more easily while you level out your finances and divorce (Having this during divorce will work better in your favor, so please do!)

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w11f1ow3r t1_iwb12yv wrote

Replying to sp1d3_b0y (#524,135)

This makes me sad. I haven’t been around Raymond for 6ish years. It’s my least favorite part about how the area is changing is how much is just clear cut :/

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Gayporeon t1_iwb2esg wrote

Residences at Riverside in Manchester has two-bedrooms available for 1700.

I lived there a few years ago when it was 1300 for a 2 bedroom. Only apartment I could find in this price range that wasn't a total dump. Never had any problems here but maybe they have property elsewhere that will work for you!! good luck

https://aviseproperties.com/the-residences-at-riverside/

(PS we were also moving away from an abusive relationship and my mom found it very comfortable here. It was also spacious enough that I would have no problem sleeping in the living room to give a kid a bedroom.)

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FragrantPalmLeaves t1_iwb8e5a wrote

Seems like you've gotten a lot of supportive ideas and I just want to add that I'm sorry you have to go through this.

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SmellyBundy t1_iwb9epu wrote

Replying to sp1d3_b0y (#524,135)

Grew up in raymond and now I’m back here with my grandparents cus I had a stroke. It’s so true! And apt hunting on SSDI is hell… I do not make enough on it to live really :(

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DP23-25 t1_iwb9h68 wrote

Three bedrooms are tough to find and obviously higher rent. Can you get by with 2 bedrooms for a while?

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TheMobyDicks t1_iwboru1 wrote

Replying to Alternative-Mud3701 (#521,465)

Be very careful. If possible go with another adult when meeting with the soon-to-be-ex. Abusers need control and to see his family slipping away may push him over the edge. Seriously, don't confront him with your children present.

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AssMaster2020 t1_iwilzbm wrote

Replying to FloridaVapes (#526,718)

Been living at Halstead for over 3 years now.

Location is fantastic and amenities have been improving since new management bought it over. Rent has skyrocketed by almost $1k since I moved here (I pay slightly less as a long-time tenant) although i think that's been the case for most Southern NH rentals.

The apartment layouts are great for repurposing the "living area" by the balcony into a third bedroom. Avoid the first floor though, sewage infrastructure in the buildings are dated and backups are frequent.

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Street_Pitch_5731 t1_iwqrp7j wrote

So you make money too? Does he take away your paychecks or divert the money into his account? I've been threatened too many times to be taken off the accounts..I'm completely dependent on my abusive husband. He recently got a new bank account and didn't put my name on it. Made sure my name wasn't on the house etc. When we need food I'll too go to the food bank and he actually likes that because the kids eat so much but I'm always asking for cash for other things.

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Alternative-Mud3701 t1_iwqun7a wrote

Replying to Street_Pitch_5731 (#556,253)

Yes i make a monthly check that I won’t put into our joint account because of this reason! We used to have a joint that he put his checks in weekly and that paid for food and half the bills and I paid for rent and half the bills since mine is one a month. Well he didn’t like I wouldn’t put my check in so he put his money in his own account now that I have zero access too. I paid all the bills this month and he hasn’t paid anything. I’m not doing that next month. I will pay my half of the rent and that’s it and my half of the bills. I’m not being fooled again next month. He will say oh do this for me and I’ll give you money, close your account and I’ll put money back but I refuse. My mom gave me $200 this month because I needed food and I stupidly put it in a the joint and he took it out so fast. So why would I put my entire check in there. I went to the food bank yesterday and he was calling me a lunatic for doing that. I’m so happy I did and will continue going they gave me a whole thanksgiving meal and stuff I really needed. He’s the lactic. I’m so sorry girl I totally feel your pain. I have no money the rest of the month and I’m not using all mine next month so my children have no Christmas. I am trying hard to get him out and I have been looking hard for a new place to live but where I live rent in like 3,000 a month and I pay 2,000 now. I have been to court and everything and they say file for divorce but it’s 6 months out for a date! I am going to do that tomorrow and try and restraining order again tomorrow. They are the biggest losers in the world. Have you tried to leave him too? I’m here if you need me!!

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