i want to come home

Submitted by 99hailstorm t3_10wbdnb in newhaven

I left CT for college in 2017 and swore i would live in either DC or NY throughout my 20's. I know i would want to raise a family in the New Haven area later on and don't want to be in the same place for too long but i miss home so much. Currently in DC because i work in policy and plan to enter law school in the next 2-3 years so i know i should keep my options open but i cant stand this city anymore.

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Hoping a position i have been seeking since November offers me the job at the end of this week but if not idk how to balance a growing career and my thirst to be in New Haven right now. It is just so much harder to find relevant work.

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Everybody keeps saying "home will always be there" but like... so will everything else, right?

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JackConnellyRealtyCT t1_j7m6umm wrote

If you do get a job in NYC you can do what many people do and live in Stamford or the surrounding area to depending on how long you’d be willing to commute into the city while still having relatively easy access to New Haven as well.

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Plane_Ad_9526 t1_j7mhfxy wrote

I moved to NoVA from the New Haven area and can’t wait to make it back too. It sucks down here.

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basedwu t1_j7mil4y wrote

Do you mind explaining further about why NOVA sucks? I’m moving down there this weekend and I want to hear your opinion.

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Plane_Ad_9526 t1_j7mw52o wrote

Sorry, hope my bias doesn’t dissuade you.

-It’s urban sprawl on steroids. One “ life style center” after another keeps going up. Build it as fast as you can and as cheap as you can. -No character or charm. New England is rich in history and culture. Northern Virginia was mainly vacant farmland up until 30-40 years ago. Now it’s just cookie cutter developments with no sense of identity. -Although comparable to much of New England, rents in northern Virginia are amongst the highest in the nation. -Traffic. Beltway traffic is just as bad, if not worse than metro NYC depending on where you’re going. -DC is not a real city and is both literally and figuratively a swamp. It’s just one big monument.

Yes, before down voting, I’m a New England snob through and through.

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basedwu t1_j7mxfei wrote

IMHO, NOVA has more character and diversity than CT as a hole. The traffic equals out, but with NOVA’s great transportation systems it really helps offset the congestion.

Just my thoughts.

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Phonervia t1_j7n472f wrote

I lived in Reston for many years and also loved it. I live outside new haven now and love that too. Two great places honestly.

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GBJGBJGBJx3 t1_j7n3ql5 wrote

Real shame we don't have better rail service, could be less than a 90 minute commute from New Haven to DC if so.

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yurrm0mm t1_j7njxbb wrote

Less than 90 minutes from New Haven to DC? As in Washington DC?

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GBJGBJGBJx3 t1_j7nlb65 wrote

Yes, high speed passenger rail is up to something like 280mph+ in Asia, and New Haven is just about 300 miles from DC. Even the Acela is advertised as being able to hit 150mph, but can barely cross 65mph because of how outdated the track is.

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brewski t1_j7nxare wrote

I think the main issue with the track is that they'd have to increase the turn radius on a lot of places. It's an extremely crowded corridor. That means massive amounts of eminent domain. Thousands of people would list their homes and businesses. It's not going to happen.

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green_lemonade t1_j7ok5oi wrote

Oh no, i guess we'll just have to demolish I-95 and start from scratch using its right of way :P

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RonnieJamesDiode t1_j7ucm62 wrote

Just straightening out the Bridgeport S curve alone is a massive undertaking requiring cutting a new ROW through a big chunk of downtown Bridgeport, nevermind the rest of the track changes that would be needed. We're decades away from being able to do it in the best case scenario.

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SleepAgainAgain t1_j7rof51 wrote

You're making the rather wild assumption that the train would be going top speed the entire way. Between theexpense of acquiring a sufficiently straight route (280 miles seems to run over Long Island Sound, not around it, and through multiple densely inhabited areas), the ridiculousness of non-stop between DC and someplace as small as New Haven, and the likelihood that they'd have to slow down simply to reduce noise pollution if they didn't go far out of their way to avoid human habitation, there's exactly zero chance of a 90 minute train from DC to New Haven.

Fun to imagine, though.

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Professional-Tour621 t1_j7owjvr wrote

Not a thing . please stop romanticizing high sped rail service. An atomic bomb was unleashed on Japan, therefore they were able to build that service from scratch. The railroad system here in America has been around since the 1800 where different rich men wanted to control portions of the country. If y’all want high speed rail - move to Japan . Argue with JP Morgan and them

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HeadyRoosevelt t1_j7mpukp wrote

I returned to New Haven after 10 years away in DC and Seattle and really love it here.

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hamhead t1_j7nbewn wrote

I did the same 15 years ago, returning from Boston

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juniperx3 t1_j7mi492 wrote

I’ve been looking for policy jobs in new haven/surrounding areas since moving here in 2021, and it is absolutely barren for that area. I’ve been stuck doing instacart other than a three month remote role for the election because I haven’t been able to secure employment in any relevant fields for my experience.

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99hailstorm OP t1_j7nb273 wrote

Try looking in the Comms direction. I mean… I still haven’t had any luck but worth passing along lol

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ExplosiveToast19 t1_j7msm3w wrote

I know some people who work in the state Capitol and live in New Haven that I’m pretty sure just take the train or something up to Hartford every day. If you have experience on Capitol Hill it should at least be transferable experience, I don’t know what the job market is like though. I see listings for state policy analysts and stuff every now and then tho.

I always thought I’d want to live in NYC in my 20s too, and I still do. But it’s nice being near family and it’s not like my career is being stifled here. If anything it just makes it easier to move there when you’re more established and have a little more money. Plus, the train ride there isn’t that long.

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MochaUnicorn369 t1_j7na7xf wrote

Can you get a job working remotely?

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99hailstorm OP t1_j7naovw wrote

This is looking like my most likely option right now despite enjoying in person/hybrid work

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autumnsky42 t1_j7nczf5 wrote

Hope you can come home soon, I know that feeling. CT misses you!

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JauntyAngleHat t1_j83n040 wrote

I have lived in NH and worked in government/policy for many decades. I don’t use Reddit much but if there is a way to send a direct message get in touch and I can give you an overview of “the business” in CT . Look at the job boards on the websites for the large trade associations like the CT Business and Industry Assn, CT Conference of Municipalities, CT Comm Nonprofit Alliance and somewhat smaller ones like CT Construction Industry Assn. There are “think tank” type places, too. Also, try the Young Democrats (or, if you must, Young Republicans).

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99hailstorm OP t1_j83p9a9 wrote

Omg thank you a ton, I’m going to try and direct message you now. I never even thought of any of this.

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AbuJimTommy t1_j7nofqt wrote

The DMV is home for me. CT is a nice place to raise a family, but I still miss DC. If you need to stay down there and can handle the moderate commute Annapolis is a really great town to live in. Much less congested than the VA side, still plenty to do and it has a great young community.

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crymeariver_a t1_j7nrx82 wrote

Meanwhile, I moved back from DC/NoVa early last year to help take care of family and am itching to go back 🫠. I knew I’d come back to New Haven but I didn’t think it’d be this early on. I miss the nightlife it’s so boring here 😭 but if that’s not your scene then I get the appeal of coming back, there’s elements I didn’t realize I missed until I came back :)

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Observant_Neighbor t1_j7m9hc1 wrote

Do not return to Connecticut. Cost of living is high and only going up. I went to school in VA and regret returning to CT.

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newmoon23 t1_j7mckug wrote

And you think the cost of living in DC or NYC is so much better????

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Observant_Neighbor t1_j7mgh0o wrote

I think you missed the point in my reply. I regret returning to CT from VA. VA, on the whole, is cheaper than CT. I didn't read the OP as have only three choices, DC NY or CT. He just thought he would like in DC or NY. Furthermore, OP references law school and he or she may go elsewhere in the USA.

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