If you haven't been, the Trinity poly/kink crossover monthly munch is nice. (It's on Fetlife.) You won't necessarily find a date there because it isn't a "find a date" munch (those get gross fast), but it would give you an entrypoint into the community and that would likely lead to being aware of other events and socials that are more dating oriented.

Or you can DM me to see if we're compatible 🙂