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Crafty-Cauliflower-6 t1_j4i5i6k wrote

Reply to comment by paddyboombotz in Safe, quiet apartment? Need to move ASAP. Please help. by CatsNSquirrels

People down voting don't understand. If someone lives above you you will hear every movement, and it's not their fault. And no they shouldn't choose to not walk at night. If this is a real issue for you don't live below people. Also if you live in a city expect it sound like a freight train outside your window day and night. If that's not your speed move somewhere quieter

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4i8l5z wrote

I don’t think you understand. We are being woken up even with earplugs and white noise, and we can’t relax in our own home. The toddler has no rules. She runs and throws things for hours on end, starting at 5:30am sometimes and ending after midnight sometimes. It is hours of bangs, crashes, screams, stomps. This is not normal noise and it is not short-lived. It is nonstop for HOURS - including quiet hours.

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perfectpencil t1_j4iax2i wrote

My wife and I had a similar issue but not only with the woman upstairs stomping, but also a woman with dementia next to use screaming at night to get her husband's attention from another room.... Who died a decade prior. We moved to an apartment that was top floor and had a much better time. We've since bought a house, but while we had it top floor was definitely the way to go.

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4ibtnw wrote

Yep, that is what we are looking for. That is what we wanted initially, but there was just nothing available when we moved here in October. This apartment was our last option and we didn't even get to see it before we signed. That was a mistake. Thank you for commiserating.

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perfectpencil t1_j4icjaq wrote

If you want to stay close to new haven, there are a few apartment / condo complexes in Hamden that all look really good. Anything along Whitney Ave will be a great neighborhood and Whitney is a straight drive into the heart of new haven.

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brewski t1_j4pybo9 wrote

While I sympathize with your situation, this "toddler has no rules" statement is absurd. Have you ever met a toddler? They don't understand the problem. Even if the parents are world class child psychologists, it takes time to teach a child anything, especially one who may understand a dozen words. Definitely a good call for you to move.

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4q7tsf wrote

I have. And I’ve had a toddler myself long ago. And I’ve met THIS toddler. She’s out of control. And mom is now stomping across the apartment just to make our lives more miserable…so you think she’s a good parent? Or even a good human being? Give me a break.

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Crafty-Cauliflower-6 t1_j4i9opn wrote

Yeah that's what it's like in every apartment I've ever lived in in a city . Quiet hours aren't really a thing unless it's an over 55 community

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4iaef4 wrote

Well I’m in my forties and have lived in a number of apartments over 2+ decades. I’ve never dealt with anything this bad.

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Resurgemus t1_j4ib692 wrote

You can definitely find a place in New Haven. I have lived in apartments there plenty and rarely had a serious noise issue. Sorry you're going through it. Inconsiderate neighbors suck.

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4ibz9q wrote

Thank you. I literally walk toe-heel in my apartment to avoid disturbing neighbors. We try hard. The larger issue is management is terrible.

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Shellsbells821 t1_j4iz652 wrote

You've been lucky! When we had a fire in our home, we rented a condo. Top floor. People below and next to us smoked so much pot that it was like we had been smoking in our rental. Not to mention the "ladies " coming in and out on certain nights after midnight and keeping us awake. Then there's the God awful music. People need to realize that when you live in an apartment or condo, that you are responsible to your neighbors to not disturb them.

So glad to be home after 15 months of HELL!

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Crafty-Cauliflower-6 t1_j4ian6f wrote

I really don't recommend new haven. It's a younger wilder town then Stamford If you have these kinds of concerns

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CatsNSquirrels OP t1_j4ib0s9 wrote

We are looking for a house in Milford. There are very few rentals in Milford that we can get short-term, so we are looking in New Haven. We don’t have tons of options right now.

Either way, I’m from Dallas. I am very familiar with city life. This is just the worst apartment I’ve ever lived in, and the most expensive by far.

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