briinde OP t1_ja97z49 wrote on February 27, 2023 at 7:50 PM

Reply to comment by Ecstatic-Passage-113 in How to forcibly get POA over an elder parent (Burlington Co) by briinde

Ok take the money out of it. There are another accompanying behaviors that are associated with this whole scammer situation that need to stop.

Like talking with them in the living room on speakerphone on his phone, and asking other family members to give him money so that he can send it to them. These people telling him sob stories that regularly bring him to tears, etc.

If I can stop the flow of money, they’ll stop bothering him when they realize he has no spendable money.

Ecstatic-Passage-113 t1_jaah0o8 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 12:49 AM

Here's my thing.

You posted this asking how you can take control of his finances against his will.
You then make a reply to one of my comments that "he's asking for money from family to pay to the scammers"

So what is it? Does he have his own money or not?

Also, you're naming inconveniences to you. Him talking loudly in the living room. Him being moved "to tears"...

This whole thing sounds weird, which is why I'm questioning you right now.

You're leaving some details out. And I have known quite a few people that did crazy things to make sure they get "their proper share" of their parents retirement/inheritance.

You need to explain this situation out more.

briinde OP t1_jaahes1 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 12:51 AM

In addition to all of his money, he’s asking others to contribute. I guess we’ll just disagree that I have a right to be upset about this.