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thementor31337 t1_jaazqxz wrote

Reply to comment by briinde in How to forcibly get POA over an elder parent (Burlington Co) by briinde

You could apply to be guardian or you and your mom could apply to be co-guardians. Or another willing family member. Once guardianship is granted, you would make the decisions about living arrangements. In NJ there are no independent guardians and the State will only appoint a guardian generally if the person is already in a facility and is indigent. Some lawyers will appoint as guardians, but it's not typical.

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briinde OP t1_jab0aot wrote

Thanks so much for your advice on the procedure. Do you have any advice on getting him out of my house?

He’s insufferable and hell bent on getting his way, at all costs including berating is and badgering us. I can’t do this level of drama for any longer period of time.

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thementor31337 t1_jab3tbq wrote

You could call Adult Protective Services like someone else suggested. It's hard though to get private placements when someone starts getting combative. Also if you have concerns about him driving you can make a report to the Motor Vehicle Commission medical review and they will evaluate whether he should still be driving.

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briinde OP t1_jab657i wrote

Thanks again. They’re on my list for tomorrow

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Jimmytowne t1_jab4faf wrote

Unfortunately you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. You don’t want him to be scammed because you care about him. But kicking him out could quickly lead to homelessness.

He may be undiagnosed or under diagnosed. I would make an appointment with a geriatric doctor and maybe a neurologist. Also a psychologist.

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