I completely understand this. Last fall we were doing the same thing, owned a townhouse in Nutley and wanted to move to Livingston. Found a place but, during attorney review someone came and blew our offer away. We found another place in Verona, but the inspection came back with too many issues. Ended up going to Wayne, got outbid on one place, made an offer on another, but the buyer of the higher offer on the first place backed out and we ended up increasing our offer to get it.

It's a tough, weird market. Emotionally don't get attached to any one place, and keep looking and making offers even when you've currently made an offer or two.