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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is4mdxz wrote

Tell your kid to defend himself. Do not take any shit, hit the bully if he messed with you. In the nose preferably because it will make him tear up, giving you time to get away.

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dsutari t1_is4v8wj wrote

Many kids simply don’t want to fight. Don’t mistake the level of your confidence for theirs.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is5bkyr wrote

Well they better learn if they want to stick up for themselves.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is5bmdt wrote

And nobody WANTS to fight.

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dsutari t1_is5qeel wrote

Some kids are small, some kids are scared. Some kids know more than 1 kid will jump on them if they try to fight back.

Do you have kids, or were you just picked on yourself?

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is5xw9w wrote

It doesn't matter if they are small or scared. Kids are vicious. Do you remember being a kid lol. If you don't stand up from r yourself then you will remain afraid.

Better to take some karate and handle it.

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mcgeggy t1_is6t0ey wrote

Having your kid take karate or other self defense classes is a great idea. They will know how to handle themselves (responsibly, hopefully) in a worse case scenario. But more importantly, they will have the confidence to believe they can handle themselves, and will be able to project a “don’t fuck with me” attitude, making themselves unlikely to be bullied in the first place. Plus they can stick up for other kids being bullied!

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is777f4 wrote

Definitely. And martial arts teaches violence is always the last resort. Nobody wants to fight but if you have to fight it's better to know how to fight

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dsutari t1_is5zx93 wrote

cringes at being that type of father

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is6cvyz wrote

I think it's respectable. I gringe at you, no sense of right and wrong, little self confidence, which is typical today from people, unfortunately.

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dsutari t1_is6k2kd wrote

I guess I’m just a beta cuck.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is6qlb3 wrote

I guess you are. Doesn't have to be that way though you know.

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dsutari t1_is6vxon wrote

You are too tough to detect sarcasm. You are a true alphalfa!

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no483828 t1_is54i95 wrote

Ok tough guy.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is5bsad wrote

Tough guy? I'm not a tough guy, nobody wants to fight ever. Last resort. But buddy, if it comes to getting picked on every single day dreading waking up, or fighting. Time to take the bully down.

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mcgeggy t1_is5kfdn wrote

The problem is getting picked on by a bully may involve everything except physical contact. So while a punch in the nose may be appropriate after a certain point of repetitive harassment, it’s probably the victim who couldn’t take it anymore that gets in trouble… Especially in a school setting.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is5xpcb wrote

As a parent it wouldn't matter to me. If my kid is getting bullied, defends himself and then gets suspended, he would receive no punishment from me. As long as he was defending himself.

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mcgeggy t1_is6qabi wrote

Sure, but from a child’s perspective, sticking up for one’s self and then getting suspended can be pretty upsetting too…

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is6quka wrote

I think that the kid probably gets his value system more from his family than school system. It would definitely be dramatic for the kid no doubt, I do agree. But if the parent stood by him it would be great life lesson.

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mcgeggy t1_is6riut wrote

Well, standing by your kids and supporting them is certainly a keystone of good parenting! Except for those bullies parents of course…

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is6rls9 wrote

You are probably right. At what point does verbal abuse trickle into physical contact. I would say when the victim has had enough of it.

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Obvious_Ad9670 t1_is6djwj wrote

Parents should teach their kids to be respectful, otherwise they gonna become a redditor.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is6esgt wrote

?

Scenario. Your kid starts falling into a deep depression you notice but you don't know why. You find out kids are waiting for him after school at the bus stop, taunting him and occasionally physically hitting him.

Without going to the school, how do you tell your kid to handle this situation?

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DieselNewmanArthur t1_is6l2im wrote

I think ur right. When parents get involved and the school it becomes bigger, and it just adds to the original issue.

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mike07646 t1_is73uoq wrote

As someone who has been bullied in the past, over the course of several years and by several different individuals, I can assure you that hitting back does absolutely nothing to change the situation. In some cases it just riles up and escalates the problem even worse.

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BILLTHETHRILL17 t1_is771ox wrote

That's not my experience. Anytime I stood up for myself I either actually became friends with the bully or he left me alone and bothered someone else.

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