Where in NJ? The difference is huge. And how soon can your husband look for jobs? I understand there is the working permit thing. If you don’t have i140 approved yet, or even your PERM hasn’t started yet, you will need at least 2 years to get them. Then your hubby can apply for EAD. That means your hubby either will have no income or do illegal work. (Which is a huge risk for you since you are legal.)
So the best way is you come here alone. After you getting your i140 approved, get your husband here. Of your company doesn’t even sponsor your green card now (ie only h1b, no PERM/i140, etc), DO NOT move with your husband with 65000 salary in NJ! You will be miserable. UNLESS you two have huge savings in your current country.