realfinkployd t1_j9yd05r wrote on February 25, 2023 at 1:47 PM

Reply to comment by tt0022 in Police: Husband shoots and kills wife in Monroeville, dies by apparent suicide after SWAT standoff by BecuzMDsaid

I believe the point here is that it doesn’t normally START like that. I’ve known a lot of women who stayed with a guy long after the little warning signs started piling up because they can fix him or he just gets like that sometimes but she knows he really loves her.

It never gets better in that situation. Never.

IntricateSunlight t1_j9ypl7d wrote on February 25, 2023 at 3:27 PM

In the case of my ex, she would be abusive towards me and all then for a few weeks things would 'get better' and normalize then it would happen again.

Therapy helped me see that cycle of abuse and emotional manipulation i was in. Note she never abused me physically but mentally and emotionally she did. She'd get very angry and yell at me and say its my fault she's angry,aggressive and yelling at me.

There was a period after we broke up where she was threatening to kill me and I was so afraid I carried a gun everywhere I went. I legitimately considered getting a restraining order on her. She went and got mental health help and she takes meds now and is much more stable and better and now we get along at least.