Silver lining: Your dad was pretty awful, so post-mortem his soul probably went to hell. And you just so happen to have a boyfriend with an employee pass. As a sidenote: Where has your family's Domovoi gone, that your family isn't protected in your own house? Your family seems to take great care in preserving the traditions and protecting the spirits, and it doesn't sound like your mom would've let your dad banish Dedushko. I wonder if the red thing is suppressing him somehow?? You may want to leave out some cream and apples and honey crepes for the Domovoi