My first picture with my daughter I'm making a grimace, I couldn't even force a smile. She was weird looking till they cleaned her up. She was so loud too. It made me distressed though I was lucky to think myself through it and realized it's not abnormal to not be that excited those first days. But many women may get sent into a downward spiral by thinking they are bad for having such feelings. Women need to be told it's ok if you don't have a heavenly experience when you first see your child. Maybe that would save at least a few from depression.