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coyote-1 t1_irvrh24 wrote

Ummm… this guy is no longer young. He’s in his mid-thirties, with literally dozens of offenses on his record. And sexual assault indicates he’s only getting worse. A “wife and family”, at this point, would be nothing more than punching bags for him, and his pathos would be carried on in his children.

While I get what you are saying, the judge is misguided.

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Lubberworts t1_irwe926 wrote

>this guy is no longer young. He’s in his mid-thirties

Hey! That's young. :(.

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coyote-1 t1_irwobb4 wrote

From a physical standpoint, indeed mid-30s is not old.

But from a developmental standpoint, particularly for a relentlessly dimwitted criminal like this whose crimes against victims are clearly escalating over time, it’s VERY old. Who he is today was formed a looong time ago.

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Placid_Observer t1_irwq538 wrote

THIS is the part that's getting the judge off the rails imo. He seems to be channeling archaic tropes like "Rub some dirt on it!!" or "Walk it off!!" to motivate the guy to be less-shitty as a human.

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Lubberworts t1_irws9p7 wrote

So, you're saying there's a chance?

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sieri00 t1_is19f1w wrote

Not without proper support network that don't exist in today's society

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Account_Both t1_irxo4no wrote

Its not old, but its past the point of change or redemption for most people.

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ringobob t1_irvwul5 wrote

Plenty of people pull their shit together in their thirties, or even later.

That doesn't mean someone who has built their life on being a piece of shit is capable of that. But age is not the issue.

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SashaNightWing t1_irwfaah wrote

I hope so. I'm in my 30's and still trying to get my life together. Feeling like it's basically over and i wasted it. No kids, no house, not doing the job I wanted, depressed and never feeling fulfilled. Each day blends into the next.

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Uncynical_Diogenes t1_irwqmgx wrote

Well I’m assuming you aren’t a rapist, so you’ve got that going for you.

Remember, you don’t have to outrun the bear. Just the worst humans.

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SashaNightWing t1_irwqv4o wrote

That is true, I'm not a rapist! There are positives hahaha. Just wish i was closer to where I thought i would be at this age hahaha.

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ScalyDestiny t1_irwx0du wrote

I dunno, the ones who got all the steps done in the right order are all pretty miserable too. Think the whole idea was a no-win scenario, so don't beat yourself up for losing.

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Steph_Sydney t1_isa919w wrote

I never got to do what I thought I would be doing at this age! I just decided to live my life as it is, instead of pining for the one I wanted.

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Iertjepapiertje t1_irwfe6k wrote

And this guy can do that by adopting a dog or something.

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M-elephant t1_irx1jx3 wrote

Preferably one big enough to bite back if he gets mean to it

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DeathByLemmings t1_irxizie wrote

While I understand what you are saying, the conclusion of your opinion is that rehabilitation doesn’t happen. I’m not sure I like that nor agree

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coyote-1 t1_irxlfi5 wrote

Rehabilitation does happen… but I’m pretty sure that it doesn’t happen if someone’s offenses are becoming worse. When you’ve recently graduated from mere property crime to sexual assault, you are NOT showing a proclivity to ceasing a life of crime anytime soon.

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DeathByLemmings t1_irxn3ha wrote

I still do not agree with throwing in the towel. What you’re suggesting is that it would be better for him to be put to death now

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coyote-1 t1_irxwq9n wrote

I’m not saying either one. I’m saying it’s an error to hold out ”wife and children” as a path forward for him at this time.

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johannesgh t1_irydv11 wrote

Why "at this time"? It might be ok later? Why?

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coyote-1 t1_iryp5wf wrote

To me, a person like that has to prove he is OK with himself before ever considering putting him in a position of influence or authority. If he can somehow manage to turn it around, to learn what he needs to learn, then perhaps somewhere down the road he could become a useful family man.

Given his record I highly doubt it.

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