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iv2892 t1_j91coog wrote

Reply to comment by Uiluj in I just wanted to ask a girl for directions on the subway, and she absolutely made my day by skyeyemx

Just out of curiosity do you feel is there an improvement in the education and social code to make sure more men realize this ? I think is okay to try to socialize with a woman I just met but si Also understand that if she doesn’t seem to do much of a conversation I just say bye and move along since I don’t want to make anybody feel uncomfortable because I hate it when it happens to me.

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Uiluj t1_j91hcgr wrote

I think it's the reality of living in a city with millions of people. Even if only a tiny fraction of that population are creepy misogynists, that loud and sexually aggressive minority will be overrepresented in public spaces.

I think it depends on the community, job sector, etc. I think the younger generation are more likely to be compassionate with the lived experience of women in nyc. But there's still a non-negligible amount of machismo and objectification going on.

I have no dating advice on how to navigate romance while be cognizant of the patriarchy. Just be friendly and nice, and people can usually read your intentions if you have no ulterior motive. If you're looking for a longterm romantic relationship, Just be yourself and honest. You save yourself from a lot of trouble and heartbreak.

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iv2892 t1_j91lngo wrote

For sure , maybe because even as a guy I remember I would get pressured from other guys telling to make moves with any moderately attractive woman I talk to or I’m friends with. In their mind you can’t possibly be just friends with women . I absolutely hate that type of machismo and even men can be victims of that .

What’s more frustrating about “macho guys” like this is they would screech and get violent if other guys do the same thing to their gf’s, mothers , sisters , etc. but yet they think it’s okay for they themselves to harass other women.

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