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DrinkCubaLibre t1_iy8ce5l wrote

Observe for signs of danger, if clear - give a simple gruff: "You good?"

If good, move on.

If not good, inquire further, provide coffee, and go about your day.

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deepmindfulness t1_iy8gwy6 wrote

Nailed it. “You good” is New Yorker for, “Hey, I know how you feel, and I want you to know that humanity still exists, and as bad as it feels right now, I promise it’s temporary. And I’m happy to help (within limits) even though we’ve never met before, because you’re a human being you are deserving human kindness and care.

Also, if you’re weird, I’m gonna tell you to fuck.”

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Berninz t1_iy8jzoa wrote

This is such a wonderful way of describing it.

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Message_10 t1_iy8l1rc wrote

LOL last weekend in Prospect Park I saw a woman lying in the ground with her husband tending to her. She had turned her ankle or something like that. I was walking by with my son. I said “You good?” without slowing or looking like I was going to help and he said “Yeah we’re ok” and I was like “I’ll be back in 10 minutes and I’ll help you if you still need help.” I came back and he was gone.

I feel like NYers will give help if it’s really needed, but otherwise, we leave you to fix your own problems.

Later on I actually ended up at a birthday party with him and his wife! He was like “Thanks for your help, bro!” even though I didn’t do anything. I loved that.

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