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DarkGemini1979 t1_iy8eaya wrote

The correct answer is mind your business.

*That said, there was one time I've ever made exception, and that was in the weeks following 9/11. It wasn't uncommon for folks to just break down and cry on the subway, standing in front of one of the many missing person walls, walking on the street...

It was the only time I would ask if they were okay or needed anything. The answer was often one of two things; they either just needed a minute, or they needed a shoulder. Was happy to give either.

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WinnieCerise t1_iy8o8x1 wrote

That was a tough week. People were crying all over. The gym, the trains, on line, walking. I’ll never forget that.

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ciaogo t1_iy8uv2x wrote

Also the couple of days after the election results in ‘16. I remember a lot of sniffling and quiet crying. The first morning commute was super quiet intercut by sounds of ppl crying. We all minded our own business.

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d4ng3rz0n3 t1_iy9cy7d wrote

LOL comparing 9/11 to Donald Trump winning the Presidency. Very nice

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MaracujaBarracuda t1_iybeeg0 wrote

You obviously do not live in nyc. She’s not saying they are comparable in scale. She’s saying that those were two occasions in which a mood took the entire city and you could all feel it together. It’s a profound experience. A friend of mine who grew up in Israel in the 70s describes similar experiences during the war there.

Crying is not always the same mood or emotion.

The 9/11 crying was a profound collective grief, a deep heartbreak, immeasurable loss, and ongoing fear. People made eye contact with strangers and shared it together. It was comforting in a way. You never felt alone in it and had millions of people around you all the time who completely understood it. It’s hard to describe to people who weren’t there.

The 2016 election crying was different. It was shock, anger, fear, and some grief, though of a different quality than the 9/11 grief. But it was still a profound experience, to experience a mood publicly alongside millions of others who share it with you.

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d4ng3rz0n3 t1_iybgrsj wrote

I lived in NYC for 6 years including during Trumps election and presidency. I was on the subway day he was elected.

Its an exaggeration. Shame on you and anyone who compares Trumps election to 9/11. Which you just did.

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metz270 t1_iyakx1i wrote

It wasn’t even close to 9/11, but fwiw I do remember there being a different vibe that morning.

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MonteXristo t1_iy9gho3 wrote

😂 they really do think it’s just as bad

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toTheNewLife t1_iy8w991 wrote

That was an entirely different situation. We all needed to help each other get through that shit.

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