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Chef-Inner t1_iy88sg9 wrote

Real New Yorkers tell you to mind your damn business

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TheTreesMan t1_iy8a320 wrote

"No one asked for a hug because it would have been obscene, an aberration in the therapeutic practice of feeling sad and sorry for yourself in a place that will continue churning at a rapid clip no matter how you, an insignificant speck, happen to feel." Just be kind to one another. This is some writer bullshit.

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spicytoastaficionado t1_iy8a3oo wrote

>It is my personal opinion that if you encounter a crying person on the train, your sole responsibility as a New Yorker is to do something sort of psycho in their general vicinity in order to compound the weepers’ sorrow and make a great story later on

LMAO

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DrinkCubaLibre t1_iy8ce5l wrote

Observe for signs of danger, if clear - give a simple gruff: "You good?"

If good, move on.

If not good, inquire further, provide coffee, and go about your day.

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ike_tyson t1_iy8cme9 wrote

If I had a dollar for every crying person I've seen in my years I'd have a nice sum of money.

However I also mind my business.

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Hell's a road paved with good intentions.

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WolfMan889 t1_iy8d8kj wrote

lol no.

You don't stare, put your headphones back in, and be thankful it's not you today.

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redditaccount71987 t1_iy8d9vx wrote

Replying to Chef-Inner (#763,956)

It depends ran into some folks wanting to talk and approaching me when I first got here. Some want to talk but as a rule of thumb it's best not to approach unless someone is in severe distress or appears to be in need of assistance. A lot of people are very aggressive.

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againblahisnothere t1_iy8da8i wrote

Replying to TheTreesMan (#764,295)

No leave ‘‘em the fuck alone.

I remember the train ride after my dad died. If someone hugged me, I think I’d curse their ass out. Your shitty hug isn’t gonna bring back my dad. I don’t want strangers hugging me.

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mowotlarx t1_iy8e13m wrote

Leave crying people alone. Unless they're asking for help, they're probably already embarrassed enough. At most hand over a tissue and say nothing.

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DarkGemini1979 t1_iy8eaya wrote

The correct answer is mind your business.

*That said, there was one time I've ever made exception, and that was in the weeks following 9/11. It wasn't uncommon for folks to just break down and cry on the subway, standing in front of one of the many missing person walls, walking on the street...

It was the only time I would ask if they were okay or needed anything. The answer was often one of two things; they either just needed a minute, or they needed a shoulder. Was happy to give either.

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CrazyinLull t1_iy8ezmh wrote

Once I saw a woman crying on the way Penn and I wasn’t sure what to do, but at the end of the day I left her alone. Think it was for the best.

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stadiumjay t1_iy8fige wrote

I be like Yerrr!!! Yo you good? If it's just them having a bad day. Tell em oh I hear ya you be alright though stay strong. If they continue to rant just be like oh hey this is my stop. ✌🏾

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Visible_Way_7069 t1_iy8fqti wrote

Replying to mowotlarx (#765,343)

As a person who spent a few months in my 30s crying on the train after my brother died, this. All I wanted was for people to have the decency to leave the seat next to me empty on the LIRR. They did not.

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famous_unicorn t1_iy8fu5k wrote

This is why I always carry tissues with me. If I see anyone crying I can pull them out and just ask them if they could use a tissue. It’s a kindness that needs nothing from the other person and every single time it’s been received well.

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fredbutt t1_iy8g1nn wrote

One time I was crying on a random stoop on the uws after getting some frustrating, bad news. Another woman my age walked by, stopped and so genuinely and kindly asked if I was ok that it snapped me out of my meltdown. I don't know that I would do the same, outside of obvious injury, but I really was touched that a stranger stopped to check on me.

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sirms t1_iy8gb5s wrote

john mulaney wrote a song about this

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arrogant_ambassador t1_iy8gius wrote

I want to practice compassion in this scenario but I also don’t want to get stabbed.

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PettyAmoeba t1_iy8gkh0 wrote

Replying to TheTreesMan (#764,295)

Sometimes being kind is allowing someone privacy, instead of roping them into an awkward interaction with a stranger when they're already having a bad time.

Don't fuckin hug me, bro.

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deepmindfulness t1_iy8gwy6 wrote

Replying to DrinkCubaLibre (#764,914)

Nailed it. “You good” is New Yorker for, “Hey, I know how you feel, and I want you to know that humanity still exists, and as bad as it feels right now, I promise it’s temporary. And I’m happy to help (within limits) even though we’ve never met before, because you’re a human being you are deserving human kindness and care.

Also, if you’re weird, I’m gonna tell you to fuck.”

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ObieFTG t1_iy8hx2y wrote

The author of the article is obviously a transplant.

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Downtown-Inflation13 t1_iy8i79v wrote

It’s okay to cry because that tells people you need some help and someone to talk to

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astral_lucidity t1_iy8izsz wrote

Keep it moving, ain’t nobody got time for that

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Iconoclast123 t1_iy8ju9b wrote

I would always go up to them and ask them what's going on (not 'are you okay?', but 'what's going on'). And talk to them. And give a hug if it was wanted/welcomed. The only time I would not do this is if they were giving off any kind of unsafe or very mentally ill vibes. And yes, I trust my instincts on this. And needless to say if they didn't want to talk I'd give them a good word and move on.

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4GDTRFB t1_iy8k7vt wrote

Let them cry, keep walking

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Holly-Wood1 t1_iy8ksst wrote

I cry a lot but try not cry in front of others sometimes in car I cry but I wear my masks so it helps

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Message_10 t1_iy8l1rc wrote

Replying to DrinkCubaLibre (#764,914)

LOL last weekend in Prospect Park I saw a woman lying in the ground with her husband tending to her. She had turned her ankle or something like that. I was walking by with my son. I said “You good?” without slowing or looking like I was going to help and he said “Yeah we’re ok” and I was like “I’ll be back in 10 minutes and I’ll help you if you still need help.” I came back and he was gone.

I feel like NYers will give help if it’s really needed, but otherwise, we leave you to fix your own problems.

Later on I actually ended up at a birthday party with him and his wife! He was like “Thanks for your help, bro!” even though I didn’t do anything. I loved that.

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dz2048 t1_iy8mkpn wrote

"crying on the subway? are you too poor to get an Uber, broke bitch?"

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brewmonk t1_iy8mm29 wrote

Does crying at H-Mart fit here?

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Jgflight86 t1_iy8mv2j wrote

  1. Take out phone.

  2. Record emotionally distraught individual in public.

  3. Add inane and callous commentary, bonus points for snickering under your breath.

  4. Rake in those sweet, sweet tiktokky points.

  5. Profit?

I did not read this article. Do not actually do this.

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EagleFly_5 t1_iy8my2c wrote

Subway riding guide for me:

  • Mask: ✔️

  • Sunglasses/my favorite brand of aviators: 🕶️ ✔️

  • City/winter gloves: ✔️

  • Winter beanie + scarf: ✔️

  • AirPods: ✔️

  • Spare to-go size of Kleenex/tissues + to-go hand sanitizer: ✔️

  • Sufficient amount of $/MetroCard fare just in case to help someone (not often due to OMNY/current stage of pandemic): ✔️

  • A “keep to yourself” mantra to avoid complications sometimes: ✔️ (95% of the time)

Pretty much goes without fail most of the time, and yes, one or two times even we ourselves might be susceptible to pressure/sadness or panic attacks, (like myself once or twice a year even on a subway/the station), but it’s all about consent if you’d want to solicit help (same applies conversely), and it’s perfectly fine if no one wants to help, or if someone wants to accept the offer of help and give you some encouraging words at bare minimum. OTOH it’s completely understandable if someone’s hesitant in terms of helping a stranger, you can never be too certain these days given what can happen in the subway (whether above/below ground) worst case scenario.

Hopefully December & the rest of the year can be something to celebrate over, and find some positivity in our own lives.

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neighborbozo t1_iy8nfpx wrote

We gentrifying acting like a New Yorker now?

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_etcetera_etcetera t1_iy8nl4k wrote

I generally think that you should mind your own business. However once when I was in my 20’s, crying on the train, mascara running down my face, a woman just said to me, “He ain’t worth it” as she got off the train never looking at me or otherwise trying to interact. She was, of course, right. I still think of her from time to time and I’m grateful for her wisdom and compassion.

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77ca88 t1_iy8o0jj wrote

My mom once saw a homeless teen girl with a sign sobbing in Times Square. She talked to her and gave her $20. She couldn’t stand the thought that it was someone’s child crying alone homeless. I thought this was a good response. (My mom also doesn’t give a fuck how homeless people spend $ she gives them either)

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garbagiolo t1_iy8pe44 wrote

Replying to _etcetera_etcetera (#767,704)

I've also had a woman try to tell me a guy wasn't worth it when I cried on the subway - I was on the way back from Sloan Kettering visiting my terminally ill mother. She did not improve my day. People should, at the very least, not make assumptions about why a woman is crying.

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iStealyournewspapers t1_iy8pgjp wrote

Replying to Jgflight86 (#767,529)

I actually did record a crying girl on the subway over ten years ago, and I do feel kinda bad about it now, but there was something beautiful about it, and how after a while the guy next to her offers her a tissue and she takes it and says thank you. The main reason I was filming though was because I was doing a project of subway people recordings, so anyone I found fascinating or weird would get recorded. This was back when I had an iPhone 4 and it was way easier to subtly film people around you while appearing to listen to music. I’d wear sunglasses too so I could appear to look one way but monitor the screen w my eyes. I have like over 200 videos and some are pretty crazy. One of the most amazing things was how you’d be filming one person, and then they get off the train, but then someone else just as interesting takes their place, or some crazier shit happens.

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aspenfrank30 t1_iy8qzh3 wrote

Last year, I had a full on panic attack, weeping sobbing, choking on spit moment on my way to work. A fucking tourist (and I don't normally say "fucking tourist", I do like most of 'em) would not leave me alone. They asked if I was okay. Ok, fine, you're nice. I said yeah. Kept sobbing. Asked if I was sure. I said yeah. Offered to get me someone. I said, I am fine. Finally, snapped, told them to fuck off and they went back to their wife complaining about rude locals.

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kstarkwasp t1_iy8r0a9 wrote

"the protagonist removed their headphones and asked if they could give the woman—who, as it turned out, had an aunt die recently—a hug. The pair embraced; some comforting words were exchanged"

If I was the person crying I'd be horrified. Like are you fucking crazy?

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justthekoufax t1_iy8r9uk wrote

Best place to cry is the downstairs dining room at the 7th Ave Sabarro that overlooks the uptown 1 platform.

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atari_Pro t1_iy8scxo wrote

I’ve seen my share of men/women crying in public. Most times they’re on the move so you can’t even interact, otherwise you just ask “you ok?” and limit your involvement as you have no clue what you’re stepping into unprepared.

I think the better and more practical application of being “NY Proud” is look out for your immediate neighbors. Get to know your upstairs, downstairs and bldg next door block mates. These are the people who will inevitably look out for you when your package goes missing or need help up/down the stairs with something big or heavy. A lot of NYCers find community at work or other social places and completely ignore the lonely abuelita living her last few years in their own building. Just my .02

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frog_pajamas t1_iy8teho wrote

I once just plopped down on the edge of the flower bed crying at the median on park Ave and like 66th and some guy who was crossing the ave asked if I was alright and offered to give me the pint of ice cream from his grocery bag.

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tigermomo t1_iy8u1pp wrote

Seeing someone in distress, I generally try to give a glance and ask if okay if I am not in a rush. Have called 911 or stayed with person with camera at the ready til help arrives at times

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qoes t1_iy8uu99 wrote

Incredibly thankful for everyone who ever ignored me on the subway

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ciaogo t1_iy8uv2x wrote

Replying to WinnieCerise (#767,857)

Also the couple of days after the election results in ‘16. I remember a lot of sniffling and quiet crying. The first morning commute was super quiet intercut by sounds of ppl crying. We all minded our own business.

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Guypussy t1_iy8ve0g wrote

Replying to iStealyournewspapers (#768,133)

> I actually did record a crying girl on the subway over ten years ago, and I do feel kinda bad about it now, but there was something beautiful about it, and how after a while the guy next to her offers her a tissue

Jesus, dude, how long did you have your camera trained on her? “After a while” could’ve taken 10-15 minutes.

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toTheNewLife t1_iy8w171 wrote

No eye contact. Never ever make eye contact.

Also, remember - no good deed ever goes unpunished.

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Guypussy t1_iy8w1x1 wrote

Do you Good Samaritans approach anyone in public who appears distressed, or just crying women? Take a seat on the subway next to the shirtless guy arguing with himself who reeks of piss and ask, “Everything okay?” and see what happens.

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GhoulishMartyr t1_iy8y0xf wrote

Damn it's crazy how many of us have been weeping on the train. I hide my face the best I can. I'm a ugly crier.

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Rtn2NYC t1_iy8yw3g wrote

Totally fine to offer a tissue or say “you ok?” Or “do you need help?” As long as you respect their response (actually be willing to offer help, avoid reacting negatively if they snap at you, or immediately disengage if no response at all).

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g_lampa t1_iy903kp wrote

“I’d like to remind the people of New York City that this hugging and chatting business is usually not, in fact, what we do.”

Ugh. I hate this smug “New Yorkier than thou” attitude. Yes.. please remind we NY’ers about “what we do”. We all suddenly have major identity crises.

I do agree that leaving ppl alone is a best practice, but I’ll typically ask someone like that if they’re OK. They might need help! Lost cell phone; robbed, and need to make a call…that type of thing.

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iStealyournewspapers t1_iy90sew wrote

Replying to Guypussy (#769,509)

That’s how my recording sessions generally went. I’d most often record to or from work on the 6 from 86th st to Bleecker or back, so if they were on that whole time, they were probably getting filmed the whole time. I just checked and her video is about 13 mins long. Also i got it wrong and it was actually a lady standing up that handed her a tissue early on in the video, and the crying girl used it the whole time, and then at the very end as she gets to her stop she collects herself and apologizes to the guy next to her saying something like “im sorry, im so embarrassed”, and he’s just incredibly sweet to her and tells her it’s ok, and puts his hand on her shoulder as a comforting gesture. Pretty sure he was gay so it wasn’t anything to be creeped out by. Very touching moment. I get why people would be bothered by the fact that I recorded it, but in 100 years when we’re all dead if this clip is still out there somewhere, I think people would be glad it’s something they can watch. Like imagine if we could watch people for extended periods on trains before film cameras were a thing. Who doesn’t love that footage of NY in the early 20th century? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aohXOpKtns0

Also I think it’s even better when people have no idea they’re being filmed and they’re just behaving 100% naturally.

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TommyPicklesScrwdrvr t1_iy91b9h wrote

Replying to iStealyournewspapers (#768,133)

"The main reason I was filming though was because I was doing a project of subway people recordings, so anyone I found fascinating or weird would get recorded. This was back when I had an iPhone 4 and it was way easier to subtly film people around you while appearing to listen to music. I’d wear sunglasses too so I could appear to look one way but monitor the screen w my eyes. I have like over 200 videos and some are pretty crazy."

  • John Wilson
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JFCGoOutside t1_iy9515l wrote

Replying to iStealyournewspapers (#770,915)

JFC. You mean back in the day when they had huge cameras on tripods and like ten people standing around and not some creep pretending they’re not filming you for a ‘project.’ I’ve seen a few people get confronted for doing shit like this on the train.

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Khutuck t1_iy95seq wrote

Replying to Chef-Inner (#763,956)

Absolutely. Last month I gave my place to an old lady in a supermarket (I was waiting for my food to be ready so I had time); she was very suspicious and didn’t want to accept so I had to say to her “I’m not a real New Yorker, I’m an immigrant”.

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Deluxe78 t1_iy96q8u wrote

Nope I played enough Left 4 Dead …keep walking

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pleboverload t1_iy99nwv wrote

I usually mind my business, as I’d want to be ignored if crying or in a moment of emotional anguish (we all have our days).

That said, this weekend a friend and I saw a young girl crying on the street alone, late at night (after 2a) in the LES. Turns out she was underage and got ditched by a 22 year old douchebag. She explained she was Muslim and couldn’t return home without the jeans she left the house with (left at said dbag’s apt). My friend (a female) called her an Uber back to Queens and we helped her get her story straight as to what she’d tell her parents as we put her in the car. We made sure the driver would watch her walk inside before pulling off.

The sounds of her sobbing alone in 30° temps made us at least ask if she was ok. After we put her in her car we both felt like we saved a kid. Funnily enough earlier that night we saw an unattended empty stroller on the sidewalk and my friend asked me what I’d do if there was a baby in it. I shrugged and rolled my eyes before deciding that I’d anonymously drop it off at the nearest precinct.

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iStealyournewspapers t1_iy9buqn wrote

Replying to JFCGoOutside (#771,953)

I see you lack foresight. Also there are plenty of people in that old footage completely unaware that there’s a camera filming them.

Who fucking cares anyway? There are cameras filming us all the time and we don’t even know it. Everywhere you go in NY you’re being recorded by a camera you can’t see. So what? It’s not like I’m doing anything bad with the footage.

I’ve caught a couple people recording me for who knows what reason and I didn’t care. I look like a couple famous people so I suspect it was a foreigner who wasn’t sure but wanted to capture me just in case.

And your thing about being confronted is way more of a risk these days than it was back in 2009 or 2010 when I was doing this. A lot of people still didn’t have smart phones and people were far less worried about being recorded in public like they are today.

These days an incident happens and basically everyone watching can record it and post it online. So people feel more threatened by the idea now than they did then. Of the 200+ times I made a recording, not once did anyone confront me. I wouldn’t expect the same today, and that’s part of why I don’t bother with this sort of thing anymore. It had its day.

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yojunie t1_iy9ebw8 wrote

I’ve had a rough year with an absolutely terrible work situation and then my grandmother died and then a few weeks later my mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness. So I’ve been weepy on the train a hell of a lot more than I ever thought possible. Only ever had one older lady sit next to me, offer a tissue, and gave my shoulder a squeeze. It felt nice, and the main thing was that she didn’t say anything or really look at me. Just a bit of support. Other than that just pretend like I don’t exist so I can pretend like no one is actually seeing me making a fool of myself in public.

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TwoFirmFeet t1_iy9h6f3 wrote

Give them a boneless pizza and an 2 liter Sprite straight up 🅱️

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Jgflight86 t1_iy9k35g wrote

Replying to iStealyournewspapers (#770,915)

Your comments originally creeped me out, perhaps they still do a bit. Yet they gave me quite a lot to think about today; the nature of candid recordings/photography, art vs. documenting vs. surveillance, what is and isn't okay in a public setting, etc.

There's no denying that out in public we're on camera whether we want to be or not. It's just surprisingly interesting to read your reasoning and have me second guessing myself.

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jxj t1_iy9qzqe wrote

Yeah mind your business but one time I was on a train where someone pulled out their laptop and burned a mix cd for the person who was crying sitting across from her

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iStealyournewspapers t1_iy9s15m wrote

Replying to Jgflight86 (#775,332)

Thanks for your balanced take on it. I admitted from the beginning that I feel a bit bad about it now. I don’t really regret it because for me it was part of my art practice, and it ultimately does no harm to the video’s subject if no one else sees it, but I still understand why someone might be bothered by the fact that I did it. Also back then I was like 22 and had a very different and less mature perspective on things. Seeing someone crying like that would just make me extremely sad now, whereas before I think I had more of that youthful lack of empathy that most people grow out of.

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jasmine24601 t1_iy9wuzh wrote

I cried buckets in public once after struggling with bad news, was totally ignored by everyone, but eventually ran into someone who I was acquainted with but usually never said hello to me. This time he said hello. He didn't ask me what's wrong, are you crying, etc., but to me that was enough of a kindness that I've never forgotten it.

Years ago, I spotted a young woman struggling not to cry while sitting alone in the McDonald's on 42nd Street. I honestly did want to say something but her body language emanated, leave me tf alone so I chickened out.

I felt like I was on that show "What Would You Do?" with John Quiñones. I wish I would have said something but I feel like you never know who's going to take it the wrong way.

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SuffrnSuccotash t1_iy9wxl5 wrote

The day my dog died I burst out crying in the dog park while I was with my other dog. Some lady was like, “do you need a hug?” I was like “n,n,n,o,o,o,o,o th,th,thank y-ou” as I recoiled at the thought

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JoeyZXD t1_iy9ym16 wrote

Replying to chale122 (#776,252)

I was walking down 31st street in Astoria and dude walked up to me and said, "Yo can I ask you something?" and I just crossed the street on a green light

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StormySands t1_iy9zkjm wrote

The only time I've ever wept openly in public on the subway. The only reason why I felt comfortable doing it was because I was totally sure I would be completely undisturbed. Thankfully I was correct.

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MedicineOutrageous13 t1_iya294p wrote

Been here. Too many times to count. Being left alone is always the way.

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absofruitly202 t1_iya3ztn wrote

I go through a flash of several strong emotions on my way to work about once a week. Happiness, saddness, anxiety, peace and unrest. If anyone saw my face im sure id look crazy. Im happy nobody bothers me in those moments

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Dygear t1_iyao4js wrote

Yo, you good?

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Jaycexo t1_iyasu4l wrote

As someone who has walked down the street/been on a train/bus and had a mental breakdown the last thing I needed was. A stranger to say anything. Kindly leave the person alone.

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Jnunez7660 t1_iyatw86 wrote

Mind your business. It's none of your business. Only if they ask, should you help or you see them legitimately struggle. Otherwise, could be a scam.

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Deathless_Marty t1_iyavpkm wrote

NYC wouldn’t recommend today’s version, has the best pizza though!

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crazyfloret t1_iyb77mn wrote

A decade ago I once was the weeping person due to a just happened bad breakup, at a PATH station enroute to Jersey City, during the holidays.

A lady who was with a group of friends came over to make chitchat, she didn't ask me why i was crying, nor if i was ok, just started chattering about how they just had all you can eat sushi and then invited me to go to karaoke with them. I went with them and it was a lot of fun and also made me feel so much better.

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famous_unicorn t1_iybboth wrote

Replying to Iused2dosmack (#789,532)

It’s just one reason I carry tissue with me. I also carry a Swiss Army knife with me because I’m convinced I’m going to save an animal that’s tangled in a piece of plastic with it. 😂

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MaracujaBarracuda t1_iybeeg0 wrote

Replying to d4ng3rz0n3 (#773,813)

You obviously do not live in nyc. She’s not saying they are comparable in scale. She’s saying that those were two occasions in which a mood took the entire city and you could all feel it together. It’s a profound experience. A friend of mine who grew up in Israel in the 70s describes similar experiences during the war there.

Crying is not always the same mood or emotion.

The 9/11 crying was a profound collective grief, a deep heartbreak, immeasurable loss, and ongoing fear. People made eye contact with strangers and shared it together. It was comforting in a way. You never felt alone in it and had millions of people around you all the time who completely understood it. It’s hard to describe to people who weren’t there.

The 2016 election crying was different. It was shock, anger, fear, and some grief, though of a different quality than the 9/11 grief. But it was still a profound experience, to experience a mood publicly alongside millions of others who share it with you.

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d4ng3rz0n3 t1_iybgrsj wrote

Replying to MaracujaBarracuda (#790,851)

I lived in NYC for 6 years including during Trumps election and presidency. I was on the subway day he was elected.

Its an exaggeration. Shame on you and anyone who compares Trumps election to 9/11. Which you just did.

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C_bells t1_iybip01 wrote

Replying to Visible_Way_7069 (#765,766)

My mom died in 2015, and for some reason I found I could only cry while walking around on the streets or on the train.

I’d get home and stop crying. I guess it felt kind of boring or pointless to sit and cry at home.

I hate the idea of people noticing me upset, but absolutely love crying while walking around for some reason.

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thesarchasm t1_iybk5g4 wrote

Replying to famous_unicorn (#765,794)

After the 2016 election results I was crying on the subway and a girl next to me silently handed me a tissue. It was the only good part of that day, and I will never forget that small act of kindness. Thank you for doing this.

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jamflowoman t1_iybly6h wrote

The last time I really cried in public, multiple homeless people offered me cigarettes and general insults toward whoever I was crying about. It helped

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DemonGoddes t1_iybuwa2 wrote

Replying to mowotlarx (#765,343)

100% this, tissue is a life saver esp with snot running everywhere. I would appreciate anyone handing me a tissue when I am crying, but prefer when they do not inquire into the reason.

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hannylove t1_iybycu3 wrote

Ha I literally just bawled my eyes out on an Uber today. The driver said nothing. Thank god

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pursuitofhappy t1_iyc12vv wrote

It’s a very surreal sight I’ve had a few times crossing a crowded street corner and one of the people walking from the opposite end just weeping but going forward and about their business.

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KilSwtch2318 t1_iyc8om0 wrote

Ok the regret when you actually ask them if they’re ok and they ask for money….😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫🤪🤫🤫🤫🤫

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NumberOneRussian t1_iyc8qtz wrote

If it's a woman, I'm not getting near that cause she's either gonna think I'm there to take advantage or she's a psycho trying to get attention. If it's a dude, I'm not gettin near that cause he's clearly not in a good place and might go from sad to violent at the drop of a hat. If it's anything in between, I'm not getting near that cause I probably don't know some farfetched rule about how to talk to them and they'll get me fired somehow. If it's a kid, I'm not getting near that for obvious reasons.

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The only time I'll address a crying is if it's someone chopping onions cause you can apparently fix that by chewing gum

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PepperTheRad t1_iycihqr wrote

I feel like I have to boooooo this article.. what a waste of time reading this. if someone is crying you ask if they are ok. And yes, I’m a New Yorker, born and raised.

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famous_unicorn t1_iycjlqj wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#798,520)

I've been working in the city since 2006 and it's happened to me at least 10 times or so. I've also offered tissues to people who were having a coughing fit (pre-covid) and once gave a woman who was really coughing an unopened bottle of water that I had. But that one was more of a group effort. About four of us were helping her in one way or another. I can't see that happening right now...I think the car would just clear out!

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SugarMagnolia96 t1_iycm63q wrote

Replying to famous_unicorn (#790,056)

Just so you know, it’s illegal to carry a pocket knife on you in NYC. NYC has some of the strictest knife laws in the country. If you’re ever doing things that can result in a cop harassing you (which could just be walking down the street) it’s not a good idea to have a knife.

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Ame_No_Uzume t1_iycpc0c wrote

I ain’t seen nothing and I ain’t hear nothing.

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yam_candied t1_iycqqpq wrote

Just nyc tings. But seriously though ive cried in public bc i needed to be away from my house and knew that nobody would bother me or care if I was sobbing outside so it just depends

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Onlyjordanones t1_iydkxn1 wrote

I always see people crying in nyc especially on 8th avenue between 9pm and 4am

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justthekoufax t1_iydtq3i wrote

Replying to Spicy_Urine (#794,730)

It has it all:

-Shitty food

-Subterranean dining room of questionable cleanliness

-A few tourists

-View to the Penn Station uptown 1 platform and all its glory

-No one you know will see you

-Overall great place to cry about the decisions that brought you there

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ProInvestCK t1_iyf1wso wrote

I cry every time I look at my electric bill

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