I’ve lived in both of those cities. And LA. And Phoenix. And Minneapolis. Now I’m in Boston. When you have a job and responsibilities, then every city is practically the same. What qualities of life are the most important to you? Do you value open spaces and a relaxed pace? Do you crave non-stop action and battling for every. single. thing? NY is fun, and exciting, and one-of-a-kind, but it will grind you into dust if you let it.