violent_cat_nap t1_iw80qie wrote on November 13, 2022 at 5:51 PM

Reply to comment by BangaiiWatchman in NYC vs DC? Which is a better place to live. by [deleted]

I grew up in the NYC metro area, so like you'd be I'm now closer to my family again. I also got lucky in that a lot of people I knew in DC moved to NYC + I have some friends here from high school and college so the transition has been easy. What sorta ended up happening is though is that I was ready to leave DC, which sorta meant I stopped putting as much time and care into making new friends in DC (or dating) which made me want to leave more.

Honestly the worst thing you can do is sit and overthink it. If you are already on the mindset that you're gonna leave, just do it. You gotta go 100% in on one side or the other otherwise you'll sorta just be unhappy (at least in my experience)

BangaiiWatchman t1_iw81z5a wrote on November 13, 2022 at 5:59 PM

I agree. I’m 26 right now and I’d be around 27 by the time I could move to NYC. I never really saw DC as permanent, but NYC I could.

I wish I would’ve done it in reverse though and spent my 20s in the New York and my 30s in DC. I feel like DC naturally fits you more as you age and get more tired of the urban density.

What do you think is easier about dating in New York? The dating scene here kinda sucks imo.

violent_cat_nap t1_iw8d38o wrote on November 13, 2022 at 7:10 PM

I kinda wish I did the same, but at the end of the day there's no going back in time.

I find dating in general is kind of terrible anywhere you go, NYC is nice because for every bad date there's a million other people who might be a better fit (but it also means people are constantly running away after 1 light orange flag). I also noticed in DC I met a lot of people who were very smart and intelligent but a bit too plugged into national politics. Idk, it's just different vibes. I find people in NYC dating wise to be a little bit more well rounded but it's all totally subjective.

Also keep in mind that visiting NYC is not the same as living in it, and NYC is not lower Manhattan. There are many parts of NYC that are dead quiet and less dense than DC. There's really a spot for everyone. Having a quiet corner in a busy spot is also just a really fun and unique feeling