Dreambellah t1_j1nxr8f wrote
You know rent is too high when someone is possibly risking sexual assault and living with a possible sexual predator/peeping Tom becuase the price is cheap. I'm a single female myself, and live alone in my apartment but I would definitely seek female roommates if I was looking to move out. Good luck in whatever you choose, and the hope the cheap rent is worth any trauma that may result from this.
PS: maybe ask how his girlfriend may feel about it, and if he says something creepy like "I haven't dated in years," that may be another red flag.
Bablaaa OP t1_j1nysfy wrote
Really nice advice! Thank you so much for sharing!
Pristine-Confection3 t1_j1nzoqp wrote
But who has a choice ? I am poor and had to take when I can get . I rented on Craigslist too and sure my building is illegal . I would have to jump form the 4th floor if there was a fire but it is better than being homeless. If you don’t make 40 times the rent you have little choice . The sketchy part of this is he is only asking for female roommates.
There was no paper work.
Dreambellah t1_j1o0co8 wrote
That's why my comment begins with "you know rent is too high..." A fire doesn't happen to you every day, dealing with possible sexual assault, abuse, being spied on in the shower, etc, can be a daily thing if you don't know the guy you are living with. I'm just saying female roommates would be a safer option if she can afford it, but if she can't wait, and has to live here, then I hope the cheap price is worth the possible trauma that may come living with this man.
Pristine-Confection3 t1_j1o0z3y wrote
I have been actually assaulted many times and agree . I think the red flag in this one is he only wants female roomates . That is why she should look at it with another person and see . He may not be the only one there.
I have lived with men I don’t know but usually with other roommates . Some being female . The female only part is what sounds the worst .
Well, a fire is more likely when you have no kitchen so everyone is the SRO uses hot plates and space heaters . Just because he is a man doesn’t automatically mean it will happen . It could but that is why women shouldn’t rent from people that say female only. Most of the websites don’t give you the option of gender of roommates so it is hard to to live with men .
Dreambellah t1_j1o20u5 wrote
Well, I thought it was just a man that was there since it sounds like in the post, the ad doesn't mention anyone else, and I feel like that would be included in the ad since this man would be inviting a female into both of their living spaces.
I'm so sorry that you were assaulted, I was just trying to prevent it. And yeah, thats why I said "possibly" he could be a predator, I didn't flat out call him one. Yeah, I guess fires could be more likely too. You're absolutely right
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