Desperate pls. I’m willing to pay someone for a long hug. Details below. Not a joke.

Submitted by snakegravity t3_10j34zl in nyc

College student going through it. Depression is kicking my ass along with my intrusive thoughts. I will pay someone $40 for a long hug. Willing to negotiate if needed.

Location: Preferably manhattan/ Downtown Brooklyn area.

—We will be hugging standing

-Hugger can be any gender

-Preferably taller than 5’5

  • I will cry, hugger should be okay with that

Please dm if interested. Thanks New Yorkers of Reddit.

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creepy_sweetie t1_j5i7m6p wrote

have you tried talking to a counselor from your school? they have resources that could help you and can help you find a therapist. don’t compromise your safety like this bb! not the best thing to meet a stranger at night, you never know who could answer this ad. do you have a friend you could talk to or make plans with? are you close to anyone in your family that you can call? it’s ok to feel like this and it’s good that you’re reaching out! just maybe not to strangers on the internet. ❤️

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Awkward-Painter-2024 t1_j5j6kxr wrote

Want to second this comment. Also the LGBTQ clubs on campuses are always welcoming spaces. I'm sure you could get a hug there, too. 💜

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7jevels t1_j5k3mj6 wrote

As a gay can concur, would hug

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Meme_enjoyer9683 t1_j5kf91g wrote

As a homophobic pos so would I. /j as people will not understand that I’m joking.

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CodedCoder t1_j5plmjx wrote

Hate to say this, but it could go bad the other way as well, this could be someone looking to do harm to someone as well, I think it is not safe for either party doing it this way.

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paisleycatperson t1_j5iclmr wrote

If you'd like to pet a kitty cat instead, the Brooklyn Cat Cafe is in downtown Brooklyn and they don't even mind if you have yourself a little cry.

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Busters_Missing_Hand t1_j5knxol wrote

Unrelated, but Brooklyn cat cafe used to have this absolutely enormous cat. He was the size of a medium dog, and super friendly. Someone adopted him, which is probably good, because he must have been costing the cafe a fortune in cat food.

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paisleycatperson t1_j5koe5c wrote

Sherman? Sherman was diabetic when he arrived but slimmed down significantly and has since been adopted. He has his own Instagram.

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asian_identifier t1_j5lgtt2 wrote

even dog cafe like Boris & Horton, but it's just other people's free running dogs (but the owners usually don't mind)

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piglink2 t1_j5idcsl wrote

Make sure their claws don't dig into you....

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Electronic_Bid_4023 t1_j5iaggt wrote

A professional massage may be a safer way of experiencing the human touch you need!

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Mattna-da t1_j5jrejc wrote

$20 for a lap dance prepandemic, cannot confirm current pricing

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Jr-12 t1_j5jz4cr wrote

$25.50 now

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brook1yn t1_j5rmlgb wrote

Depending on where you go, another $20 for a ridiculously good neck massage.

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CityComm t1_j5m04ky wrote

Was going to comment this. They have a professional and therapeutic hugging and snuggling program in NYC.

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Magicstate t1_j5ilul2 wrote

I'll give ya a hug. I may cry too. Let's do this

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extragreensauce t1_j5ijrho wrote

https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/professional-cuddlers/new-york

Edit: lmao at the comments. I'm not suggesting or selling anything, I just posted the first link I found. I've heard of professional cuddlers / huggers before, so maybe you can find another site you feel more comfortable with where you can pay for an innocent and genuine cuddling / hugging interaction with someone, kind of like DoorDash but for that sort of thing. My thought was maybe a website that requires a pro cuddler/hugger to register would be safer than meeting someone off of Reddit or Craigslist or somewhere else.

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Throwawayhelp111521 t1_j5jmh14 wrote

It doesn't bother you that they're all fairly attractive younger women?

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brickvanexel t1_j5k6ayi wrote

On the other side of the coin, I just don’t see anyone, male or female, trusting a service like this enough to hire a male pro cuddler

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mythought22 t1_j5mgkyi wrote

And for some reason, it looks like if you're a man, they charge you double on average. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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essenceofreddit t1_j5k6cc1 wrote

Some of them aren't attractive at all! Stop being so judgy wudgy!

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snowdrone t1_j5k2klz wrote

Most in mid twenties, many in 30s and some in early 40s.. what are you looking for?

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Throwawayhelp111521 t1_j5ky4wq wrote

I'm not looking for anyone. But when someone posts a site for supposedly platonic hugs and all the service providers are women* you don't have to be a genius to wonder if something more is on offer.

*Someone did inform me that there's a man named "Marc" on page 10.

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snowdrone t1_j5l1lta wrote

I think the site is legit.. it seems like they really believe in platonic hugging as a kind of therapy, exactly what OP wanted.

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superangry2 t1_j5mtukh wrote

Yea there’s even overnight rates for when you want to hug a woman for like 12 hours straight.

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TimeTomorrow t1_j5kll4k wrote

I lost at rock paper scissors and me and my gf ended up heading to the male strip club in a very very popular tourist town. It was appalling how little money these guys were making. I asked how they paid rent and they said husbands with a kink. Women just aren't splashing out sustainable amounts of money the way guys do.

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TrainingHot6811 t1_j5k1bks wrote

Pretty sure these are hookers bro

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superangry2 t1_j5k9b2l wrote

It says right there you can hire a pro for $120 an hour, they’re not even trying to hide it

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Xmaiden2005 t1_j5i7g65 wrote

Your school has a counseling office for students. Please call them or walk in they will help you . Also, if you are desperate for human contact and over 21 strip joints have ladies who sell their time. You can just pay to talk and maybe hug ( if they feel safe). Good luck.

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pddkr1 t1_j5i9dpb wrote

Hey friend. I’m sure there are lots of great resources that others have pointed out, please make use of them!

Definitely not a counselor or professional, but there’s no shame in seeking help! I think most everyone here would agree.

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MidnightCh1cken t1_j5ii8fe wrote

Dear OP,

These last few years have ben a challenge for most everyone.

I hope you feel better soon !

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sonder2230 t1_j5i8xgy wrote

I will absolutely hug you, you don’t need to pay any money. Life is fucking hard, the world is lonely, I’m happy to help you.

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nyc_nomad t1_j5ik1gu wrote

Not gonna lie I feel the same rn! DM if you’d like to link up OP

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Nestman12 t1_j5j5uuf wrote

Free hug if you need! Sorry you’re going through it. Feel free to reach out even if just to talk

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cx8cx1 t1_j5jfp1y wrote

my heart goes out to you and to everyone else who is quite rightly feeling downtrodden in a time such as the present. i’m touched by the number of people who have volunteered in this thread, and i have a hug for you as well - you may have to form a line. however this goes just know that you are cared for, you are not alone, and despite everything there is still so much love and goodness all around you.

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El_Nahual t1_j5jhui5 wrote

Look for "cuddle parties" on meetup. Super wholesome, lots of boundaries.

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lochnessmonster13 t1_j5k2520 wrote

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m not a therapist but I am an emergency room doctor in residency. You can reach out whenever you like to talk. Free hug as well, I am an inch under 5’5 though.

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Scroticus- t1_j5kfup7 wrote

Our society is so lonely now.

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ohwhatj t1_j5i7cmq wrote

Best of luck my friend

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b_y_l_t t1_j5jsjun wrote

To the OP, I unfortunately cannot get to Manhattan but sending all the positive vibes I can through Reddit. Times always get tough, this won’t be your last but you have to try to relax, take one step at a time and try to have a positive outlook of “tomorrow will be better”. About 2 years ago, I was at my lowest point due to medical issues that left me paralyzed for 6 month, in a coma for 3 weeks. I was on suicide watch for 2 months. With help from professionals, I slowly got mentally stronger but what got me through the darkness was my own willingness. It surely doesn’t look like much now, but there is a lot of life to look forward to living.

You should take some time off from work/school, even if it’s for a week. Find a hobby, contact your friends/family just to chat, listen to your favorite artist. Basically try to occupy your mind with some light so it can outshine the darkness.

If you want to talk, feel free to message me.

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Electronic_Bid_4023 t1_j5iahlg wrote

A professional massage may be a safer way of experiencing the human touch you need!

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[deleted] t1_j5jwsrd wrote

will hug for free friend :)

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MurrayPloppins t1_j5k5q2n wrote

I’d do it for free. I’m going through a breakup and could use one too. Sorry you’re going through a hard time.

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Guypussy t1_j5k9gxd wrote

Mods left this one up, huh?

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killdemangels t1_j5j1g68 wrote

I’d give you a free hug for as long as you want. It’s an unfortunate I’m not in NYC. Hope you get that hug you deserve, stay strong 🤍

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mychubbychubbs t1_j5jn5x7 wrote

awww! i would totally hug you but I don't meet the height criteria, lol. if you want a free hug and are in midtown hmu :)

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BlackHeartBrood t1_j5jrhw3 wrote

Also try dancing. Once you get enough hugs to stop crying. Dancing is great to prevent touch starvation. Google for nyc blues dance. They have a free lesson at the beginning. It’s normal for folks to arrive without friends or partners, mix once you get there. Respectfully holding hands or light embrace while dancing helps the touch-starvation.

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KingFiona t1_j5jsieb wrote

Can’t meet you for a hug but happy to send pictures of kitties/ponies (not a euphemism) to distract you.

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lucialuccianna t1_j5kay2k wrote

Also go to a spa and get a massage, plus a manicure, hair or skin treatments,2 birds, you will look better and feel better.

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circajusturna t1_j5in3vn wrote

Free hug guy in Union Square or Washington Square?

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mangolipgloss t1_j5j65og wrote

Jermaine is a wild card.....would not advise going to him for emotional support.

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juniperaza t1_j5jbg4f wrote

I just googled the man. He’s been arrested countless times for assaulting women.

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Endraxz t1_j5jhx8j wrote

I’d give you a free hug although I’m probably too tall for you. Maybe if you’d allow me to pick you up a hug ya. :) I’m 6’7”

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BooksCoffeeDogs t1_j5jvs6s wrote

Hey, I really hope you’re okay. I know college sucks ass sometimes and life is also hard at the moment, but you got this! I’m really sorry your depression is kicking your ass at the moment. If you ever need to vent, feel free to DM me.

I’d give you a hug, but I am three inches shy of your height criteria.

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sevomat t1_j5k1su4 wrote

I would recommend requesting someone who's kind of cuddly too - I mean if you're gonna pay for a hug.

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LouisSeize t1_j5k9h40 wrote

I feel for you, OP, but hugging is not a replacement for therapy. Depression is something that may require prescription medication. Please get some professional help. The student health services at your school is a good place to start.

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Federal_Carpenter_67 t1_j5kcym1 wrote

Awwww, both me and my pitbull will give you a hug for free. You should never have to pay for a hug but I know it’s easy to feel alone when you’re overwhelmed. Saying a little prayer to you and anyone else who’s going through it

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lavos__spawn t1_j5l9rns wrote

I feel this. Hang in there. I just had to file for a short term leave from work, and am in need of a hug myself. But I've ridden this one before, and know it'll get better with time

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Clavister t1_j5lyjzy wrote

I am a 6'4" dude, I will hug you for free any time, I work M-F in FiDi, hugs rule, best wishes ❤️

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Severe-Frosting-1728 t1_j5lznx3 wrote

I’ll give hug for free too—a nice long bear hug too!

Things will get better, mate—you just give it some space, a different perspective and have some hope.

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Vintage198011 t1_j5m3b8g wrote

Look up Free Mom Hugs who support lgbtqia youth. I am in SI and am basically 5'5" but would definitely offer up free hugs and a shoulder to cry on.

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ShortMonth9031 t1_j5mcnal wrote

I'll happily give you one for free, but am currently out of the country and won't be back in upper east side until February 9th. DM me.

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LO_BRO203 t1_j5mz0dp wrote

Honestly, I would pay YOU $40 towards your first Therapy session. Don't put yourself in harms way asking strangers for hugs. This is a Mad, Mad, MAD, world we live in today. I know that depression can really kick your ass at times, been dealing with it myself for many years. Therapy has really helped and I would beg of you to go that route instead of the one you posted.

Please take care of yourself and stay well......

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MaxxDee t1_j5ib8pm wrote

🛐Namaste..🤗🙏🏽🤗Sending you positive vibes and positive energy🤗🙏🏽🤗

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Realistic-Ad-5852 t1_j5jwc26 wrote

I know it can be difficult to get mental health care in our crazy city.

Nyc Well can be a great resource for connecting you with care and/or just to vent.

I have been really liking Better Help, which is a affordable app based therapy program. They have lots of different group discussions to join to which help you to feel less alone.

Good Luck Op

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nuevalaredo t1_j5k3cz6 wrote

Giving you a virtual hug right now. Im sorry to hear you are having a tough time. But tough times come and go. You are good and strong, and you will get through this!!

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QUINNFLORE t1_j5k7syk wrote

This is the most unhinged post I’ve ever seen. 87% chance it ends in a robbery

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go-for-Banjo t1_j5khyo7 wrote

I’d hug you for free! You’ll probably get some beard in your face, so there’s that. ;)

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Efficient-Status-614 t1_j5kqkrj wrote

Happy to give a hug, no payment necessary! Hope you feel better OP

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patricemv t1_j5krxiy wrote

In our world today, depression looms large & wide. Tho I wud never charge or accept $$ for a hug. I’m a hugger! Please find someone to talk to. I’m no longer in NYC

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-RenegadeDX23- t1_j5kv8x7 wrote

I don't know where you are right now, but I love you. Stay strong!

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_tuelegend t1_j5kvs00 wrote

had i saw this earlier i would had given it for free. hope you're doing alright.

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Throwawayhelp111521 t1_j5kxij2 wrote

Please contact your college's health services office, or seek a low-income therapy clinic, or call a suicide hotline. I know you're not on the verge of committing suicide, but they will talk to depressed people and maybe have some suggestions.

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thebruns t1_j5l1uvz wrote

From your other threads... rent is not $2,000 a month. You can get a room in a shared apartment for $800. Move out.

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margiecstasy t1_j5l3js0 wrote

Would love to give you a hug, as hugger that I am I would be more than happy to!

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fightwriter t1_j5lbsig wrote

taller than 5'5 has me laughing so hard

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Even-Yogurt1719 t1_j5m8a1w wrote

Il be in Chinatown tomorrow, early afternoon if you still need hugs! I can use one too tbh

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contangoz t1_j5mxu56 wrote

Your tuition already covers this outlay

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Algoresball t1_j5xqwvg wrote

Where do they keep the coins?

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chikpea16 t1_j61cmqn wrote

Happy to do it for free but I’m only 5’3”

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RXisHere t1_j5obows wrote

No wants wants to participate in your fetish. Get a counselor or sex worker might be the easiest.

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