Endaar_F t1_jec6wa9 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:08 PM

I did a 75 minute drive for a few years. Mornings didn't bother me but the evening was tough. I wouldn't call it mental anguish though.

I've done a 35-45 minute drive for the past 20 years. Maybe it bothers me once a month, probably less. Most of the time it's perfect.

I like driving. I have a nice car. I blast music. It's almost cathartic.

45 minutes is probably the cutoff for a lot of people as to what is and isn't reasonable. But it is certainly not enough to pass on a significant raise at a young age.

ShopEmpress t1_jecai1b wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:34 PM

Mines 75 right now and I just listen to audiobooks to pass the time. Its great!

Seattle0718 t1_jedllhl wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:31 AM

You commute 12 hours a week? That’s genuinely crazy

ShopEmpress t1_jee91xc wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:44 AM

I do. It's not ideal and I'm looking for a place closer to work but this is how the dice fell and I'm making it work.

Boshly t1_jecgsv1 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:20 AM

The other issue is that a lot of people think a long commute has to involve heavy traffic and stop and go.

I love listening to music and books and find I’m much more relaxed when I get home.

When I have a bad day when I work from home and walk from my home office to my living room later there is no buffer. Those issue fade after a commute to decompress.

DinkleButtstein23 t1_jed207o wrote on March 31, 2023 at 3:05 AM

Not possible in an hour plus of stop and go traffic. It requires constant focus and attention.

Boshly t1_jeekupu wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:25 PM

Did you read my first paragraph 😜

Not all commutes involve stop and go.

WelcomeToOzz t1_jec96fd wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:24 PM

Yeah, I did a 90 min each way for 4 years and it wasn’t that bad. My office is 45 min away now but I rarely go.

adamstempaccount t1_jedzjku wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:51 AM

What kind of car? I’m always curious what my fellow long-haul drivers find themselves behind the wheel of.

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AnEpicTaleOfNope t1_jedyqzx wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:39 AM

My commute is 1hr 15 mins and I've done it for many many years, every now and then traffic gets bad and it's 2 hours, but i don't mind. I like commuting, and i love my job and being in an office. Everyone is different and I guess OP has to work out what they are happy with.

Fkn1v1mem8 t1_jecflhy wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:11 AM

I’ve been driving 2 hours each way for 8 years. It sucks kinda sometimes but it’s not that bad

podcartfan t1_jecks50 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:50 AM

There is no universe where 4 hours of commuting a day is “not that bad”. Hope it pays well.

Faringray t1_jecgm9f wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:19 AM

Wasn't there a thread recently where people talked about having commutes like this and thought the same, until COVID suddenly made them not have it. And they realized there life could have had hours more in each day and they missed it.

It's not just 2 hours more for a 24 hr period, its 2 hours more of awake time. So like 2/16.

maybe im thinking of wsj article.

Fkn1v1mem8 t1_jeckqhp wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:49 AM

That’s definitely probably true. But I will never make the kind of money I’m making with my current career anywhere else. I am the sole provider for my family so it is worth it to me. I use the time to listen to audiobooks or podcasts or be introspective

DinkleButtstein23 t1_jed50ob wrote on March 31, 2023 at 3:32 AM

Yet the money isn't good enough to move closer to the job?

Fkn1v1mem8 t1_jedvtp1 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 8:57 AM

It’s in the construction industry so the “job” is always moving. I can’t move closer to the job

According_Surround_7 t1_jedd3go wrote on March 31, 2023 at 4:50 AM

Maybe they like where they live and their family is happy there. Not everything is about money.

Elegant-Row-2396 t1_jee5e12 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:05 AM

You literally have another 50 percent of work on your day that’s costing you money, how is it “not that bad” that’s genuinely mental

Fkn1v1mem8 t1_jeehliv wrote on March 31, 2023 at 12:59 PM

Because I’m a high school dropout making 150-180k per year

Elegant-Row-2396 t1_jeeiacb wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:05 PM

Congrats, doesn’t make it any less insane though.

Fkn1v1mem8 t1_jeeiln1 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:07 PM

Definitely not for everyone

Elegant-Row-2396 t1_jeej6cr wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:12 PM

Did a hour and a half commute for a year it’s definitely not for me at any wage, fair play for doing it though.

I make 42k and I work from home 4 out of 5 days a week. I signed a 60k offer onsite 23 miles there and back 45 min, 45 min back. Does this make any sense?

Manders4444 t1_jec5wip wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:01 PM