MDfoodie t1_iuih84a wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:09 PM

Reply to comment by hijinks in I was put in a horrible financial situation and need advice. by [deleted]

They are still married. There is nothing here that is illegal. The wife was on the account and took out the money that she legally had access to.

It’s not theft. The assets in question have been spent. A divorce attorney and subsequent divorce could only net OP a split of current assets.

Sideways_X t1_iuihxri wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:14 PM

Exactly my problem.

MDfoodie t1_iuijgsh wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:24 PM

Get a bank account only in your name and have your earnings deposited there. Ensure that anything else with her name on it isn’t a liability for you.

A divorce attorney is still a smart decision moving forward. Document carefully what has happened so that it might support your case in court.

Sideways_X t1_iuikgqz wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:31 PM

That's already been done. I never closed my personal account from before we were married ~5 years ago.

itsdan159 t1_iuixkpx wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:57 PM

It doesn't have to be illegal, she legally accessed the money as she was allowed to by bank policy, but emptying bank accounts and fleeing to another state isn't going to look great in a divorce, which is what the commenter was talking about.

MDfoodie t1_iuiyfbx wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:03 PM

Which I described in a subsequent comment. However, there isn’t anything to sue for at this point (maybe assistance with coverage of rent)…people just love to comment that whenever something negative happens.

itsdan159 t1_iuj8mwf wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:11 PM

They didn't say sue either, just to talk to a divorce lawyer so they'd understand their actual situation and not what they think it is, or what a bunch of redditors think it is.

Sideways_X t1_iujclak wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:38 PM

A fair number have said sue, so I admit I made an assumption.