Submitted by StarlordsTrees t3_z6vsmx in personalfinance
Hello. I am 27 years old and live in Scotland and am finally ready to admit I have a big problem. I have lost total control of my debt and it's affecting many parts of my life negatively. Please help.
A bit of back story, a close family member took out credit in my name and defaulted, destroying my credit. The debts have been paid off however the black mark on my file meant most of the personal credit I took out was very high APR. I am ashamed to admit I did not understand credit when I took it out, and was reckless with the money. I work full time, always have done and make £1550 after tax every month. Below is a list of my outgoings (not including food or fuel, just bills) along with the dates they are paid. Those without dates are bank transfers for unsecured family loans or credit that doesn't have a set billing date.
- 1st - Cat Insurance (£27)
- 1st - Phone Device (£45)
- Vanquis Card - (£40)
- BOS - £50
- Grandad - £150
- Brittany - £50
- 1st - Car Tax £20
- 1st - Tom (£50)
- 1st - Utilities (£100)
- 1st - Council Tax (£100)
- 1st - Internet (£25)
- 1st - Credit Card RBS (£65)
- 1st - Credit Card Capitol One (£30)
- 1st - RBS loan 1 (£215)
- 3rd - RBS loan 2 (£110)
- 4th Youtube Premium (£12)
- 6th - Spotify (£15)
- 8th - Tv License (£14)
- 8th - Car insurance (£50)
- 10th - Phone Airtime (£15)
- 20th - One-Drive (£6)
- 25th - Microsoft Xbox (£11)
Total: £1200.
I do not pay rent, as I pay the majority of the bills. Our rent is only £300. I am also set to get married July 2024. My fiancé has £3k saved up for that and is handling most of the saving, which I feel awful about. I would love to help more.
Now for my debts, there are below:
Secured Loans RBS LOAN 1: -£7163.65 - 26%APR
RBS LOAN 2: -£2728.49 - 4%APR
RBS CREDIT CARD: -£1500 - 16%APR
VANQUIS CREDIT CARD: -£500 - (40/60, one of those%)APR
CAPITOL ONE CREDIT CARD: -£800 - (UNK%)
B.O.S Overdraft: -£2000 0%APR
R.B.S Overdraft -£500 0%APR
Total November 2022 = -£15191
Unsecured Loans Tom Loan: £1975 remaining balance.
Brittany Loan: £200 remaining balance
Grandad Loan: £3120 remaining balance
Total November 2022 = -£5295
I am not blaming anyone but myself for the hole I am in. I am sick of not being able to help with the shopping or contribute to my own wedding. I cannot go to one of those "Consolidate at the cost of no finance for 6 years" as the mortgage we are targeting will start in 2025/2026 so I need to find a way to pay everything off without what is essentially a quick way out. I understand this will not help my case.
What should I prioritise? Is there any way I can earn extra money despite working full time? I am just so lost I don't know what to do. I have ADHD and I hate when people use that as an excuse, so i'm not going to, I just want to give a bit of reasoning why I have been so impulsive in the past and I am working on getting better. Please excuse the formatting, I typed this on my phone at work on my lunch break
Thank you.
StarlordsTrees OP t1_iy3gotz wrote
Just want to comment and thank everyone for not instantly shitting in me for being stupid. I am writing all this down and will work so hard for a better financial life.