> Personal problem, I take full responsibility, and I'll try to do better next time.

Just a note - taking this approach will take you so far in life. Rather than stubbornly adhering to your preconceived ideas, being able to listen to new information, immediately accept a correction and learn from mistakes will pay dividends.

I've interviewed a lot of people. In general, there are virtually no black-and-white situations that require only one type of response. Always read the room and make sure you're processing what is happening in front of you. Note that this doesn't always mean to change your behavior if you've decided on a course of action - but you should still be aware of what's happening.

In a scenario where an HR person is making blunt demands for information and is appearing annoyed, I would probably at least consider that refusing to provide the information will result in my not getting the job. Basically anything you do to piss people off in the interview process can result in not getting the job.

That doesn't mean, "don't ever piss people off." It just means that you should know it's happening and know the potential outcome. Adjust accordingly.