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TK_TK_ t1_j2abpct wrote

We have three kids as well, and what we’ve found works is having one parent focus on earnings and one on flexibility. The flexibility really is invaluable, especially if a new role would likely mean travel. If he wants to bring more money in, that’s on him—and I’m saying that as the higher earner.

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pookiewook OP t1_j2ayyh3 wrote

Thank you for this perspective! I too look at it that I have the flexible job and he has the higher earning job.

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cool_chrissie t1_j2biq31 wrote

I’ve never thought of it in this way specifically but this is exactly why our situation works. My husband makes 2x as much as I do but my job is way more flexible. I can always take time away to go pick up sick kiddo, run to doctors appointments, go to school activities etc. I can take last minute PTO. I can request off PTO and run into the negative if I don’t have enough saved up. I can definitely make more if I change companies but I would definitely lose this flexibility.

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