johnny5656765 t1_j6lv6to wrote on January 31, 2023 at 6:17 AM

Reply to comment by WheresTheSauce in Should my Fiancee and I both be on our mortgage if our payment can be lower if she's the only one on it? by WheresTheSauce

don't listen to this sub about this point

you can't convince them. should most couples buy a house before they actually tie the knot? no. but if they have thought about and considered the risk like adults then do what's best

the concern is that something happens in the relationship and it ends between buying the house and tying the knot...and i'm not quite sure how either of you would be better off if you had gotten married before breaking up. /u/iranisculpable is not saying "put off the purchase until after marriage" which i can understand, they are saying to rush and get married before buying the house which is psychotic and way more impulsive and likely to result in an issue

iranisculpable t1_j6mir1o wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:34 AM

Thanks for telling me I am psychotic. That is so civil of you. OP is ready to purchase the house and OP should not take the financial risk of joint ownership with someone who is not a spouse.

There is no rush to marriage because the decision to marry has already been made. Having a marriage service performed at the county office protects OP and source legally, and they can still have the planned cultural wedding service and reception.

Blocked for your lack of civility