Where do the lesbians/bi women go?

Submitted by eritated t3_y2atoy in philadelphia

I'm 24, bi, and vastly prefer women. I can only pull men on dating apps. I'm so tired of it. I just want to meet some women for once. What's a good place to go? I've been to Woody's but it's basically all men.

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ilovetorunforfun t1_is1zch9 wrote

Follow sipcitymixer on IG. There are events almost weekly with huge turnouts of queer women.

EDIT: As a queer woman living in the city, it sucks that we don’t have a lesbian bar :( RIP Sisters

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menunu t1_is23jrq wrote

I miss Sisters </3

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Melissajoanshart t1_is244ku wrote

Thursday nights 8 drink tickets 10 dollars and all you can eat meatballs with free karaoke

That was the night.

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ilovetorunforfun t1_is2778b wrote

So many drunken babygay memories lol

One of those nights my friend took an entire tray of Gray goose cranberry’s that were just left unattended at the bar to the upstairs dance floor lol my 21 year old self felt like such a high roller.

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okjkay t1_is2m1d0 wrote

Some of the best nights I only vaguely remember were Thursdays at sisters.

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blue-and-bluer t1_is3jubm wrote

Me tooooo. I wish I’d taken more advantage of it while it was around, but I was still closeted. 🥺

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carbiscuit t1_is32n6n wrote

If you haven’t been already, checkout Strangeloves in the gayborhood! It’s not officially self-branded as a lesbian bar, in the way that Woody’s labels itself a gay bar, but that’s basically the vibe — at least judging from the couple of times my bf and I have been.

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sb0918 t1_is2spu1 wrote

Met my (gay) husband of 18 years at Sisters. Miss it so much.

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passing-stranger t1_is2651h wrote

Plant swaps. The tegan and sara show later this month? Shopping at or employed at coops or thrift stores. Sitting at home with our cats wondering how to find other queer women but settling for an unfulfilling hook-up with a man out of convenience and then remembering why you were celibate for so long? Just me? It's rough out here when you're not already in a queer west philly house share to pass around exes, as is the traditional lesbian way haha

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eritated OP t1_is26fmt wrote

I'm in the suburbs (Montco) so it's even worse! I relate to the hookup thing a bit too much haha

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ShoeAndPanty t1_is4iqbz wrote

^LOL I feel this. Became a suburbanite too.

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eritated OP t1_is85ui0 wrote

Been one all my life! I enjoy it since I'm disabled and I can't walk places like required in cities, but I do wish I had the closeness of everyone in the city.

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kgraettinger t1_is508bc wrote

Haha so accurate. I sit at home alone with my cats and work on home renovations but then got a new traumatized rescue dog instead of trying to date anymore 😂 I’m ok with it.

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ShoeAndPanty t1_is4h2ps wrote

I relate so hard to this comment (was in West Philly house on Lancaster).

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everythingisaconcept t1_is281ju wrote

bike stop frequently hosts dyke night !

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SleepyBearDave t1_is4dr9e wrote

+1 to Bike Stop. I know the major demographic is men but the event nights they have with the lesbian community are always so fun. I work there so when I find out I can message you dates if you want?

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PennyLiner t1_is5zi47 wrote

Agreed. I've been to the Dyke Night parties, and I've hung out at the Bike Stop by myself or with others. It's very welcoming and their security isn't hateful. The bartenders are nice.

Most of all, the Bike Stop is very GAY, unlike Woody's, which is just an expensive disco that caters to white bridesmaids.

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uptown_gargoyle t1_is1u50i wrote

There were rumblings and at least one Zoom meeting about creating a dyke bar/social club in west philly, but the plans were canned over concerns about doing gentrification. To my knowledge there doesn't really exist a lesbian-focused bar here.

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vodkaismywater t1_is1xdqq wrote

That's disappointing but very on brand for west willy, where good is the enemy of perfect.

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Mike81890 t1_is2sh6n wrote

Isn't the idiom "good is the enemy of perfect?"

Lol I typed it backwards in my own damn attempt to correct

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smizmar0 t1_is1zfr2 wrote

Add a group called Sip City on Facebook (I think they're on Instagram too). They organize queer womens' happy hours and other events at bars around the city.

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stonewallsyd t1_is2s8x2 wrote

RIP to the Toasted Walnut, it was my favorite place to dance and play trivia pre-pandemic.

That being said, there’s lots of events at Franky Bradley’s that are super fun and queer-oriented. There’s a What We Do in the Shadows themed burlesque show and dance party happening there Oct 13th, I’m going with some lesbians so I can guarantee at least 4 of us!

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Stigs84 t1_is3z3xc wrote

They had an amazing brunch, me and my friend stumbled upon it, I wanna say it was $3 mimosas. No one knew about it, apparently, because there was never anyone in there and then they stopped doing it and then they closed. RIP $3 mimosas

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bravocado_ t1_is1v4jq wrote

Strangelove’s is queer lady friendly. Everyone is welcome there.

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Aje644 t1_is2j0rn wrote

There is a new queer bar on Lombard called the Midnight Iris. Seems more female-focused than the other gay bars in the city.

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fahkingicehole t1_is2kxg7 wrote

The Trestle Inn…. My friend from high school owns it with her husband. She’s a fantastic business owner and her clientele are very diverse and classy. Go-Go dancers should attract your attention - if they swing the way you do. Good luck and enjoy yourself…. Love happens when you’re not looking so relax.

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Saetia_V_Neck t1_is39f54 wrote

I haven’t been there since before the pandemic but tell your friend I love her bar and every time I go there I get irresponsibility drunk and make a mess of myself.

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lboogaloo t1_is5ca96 wrote

Best post Underground Arts show dance spot!

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Abbraxus t1_is2fpzj wrote

Upstairs at Franky Bradley's always seems mostly lesbian oriented whenever we play a show there.

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kellyoohh t1_is2qlpb wrote

I was always told that Frankie Bradley’s was the closest thing we had to a lesbian bar, but never necessarily got that vibe whenever I’ve been there. Still worth a try!

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SouthAndTheSea t1_is3xwjx wrote

it used to be a true lesbian bar called Sisters

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kellyoohh t1_is58x11 wrote

That makes so much more sense. I saw all the comments about Sisters but didn’t realize it was the same spot. Thanks for clarifying!

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xnd655 t1_is43mba wrote

We sit at home with our cats

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MaimedJester t1_is3xap6 wrote

Well in the spirit of Halloween... Rocky Horror Picture Show shadowcasts are a guaranteed hookup almost. Little late to the join the cast but if you need a Queer hookup Halloween... No place better than Rocky Horror midnight showing.

There's one tomorrow if you're interested doors at 11 PM.

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SleepyBearDave t1_is4e16z wrote

Where is this one? I'd love to come.

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MaimedJester t1_is6dffl wrote

PHS Pop Up Garden at Manayunk
106 Jamestown Ave., Philadelphia, PAPA

For tonight's performance.

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MisterAlaska t1_is2d5gk wrote

Depending on your type you could attend a woman's rugby match/get involved. I used to be neighbors with a couple who both played and at their parties/get-togethers my wife and I were sometimes the only straight folks there. https://philadelphiarugby.org/

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afdc92 t1_is2lm4q wrote

The entirety of my college’s women’s rugby team was queer, it’s a great way to meet fellow gay/bi women. Even if you aren’t gay they’re usually a fun and welcoming bunch. Same goes for soccer, my bet is a women’s soccer team would have a good amount of queer women on it.

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internet_friends t1_is2umuq wrote

I met my girlfriend on Hinge! I know dating apps suck and nothing will change that, but I saw another comment saying you live in montco. Next time you're in Philly do a lot of swiping and you'll get new/better matches. There aren't any great gay bar options in the city. Sip city mixers have been mentioned which is another option. Honestly I think we should start our own group for meetups, I really need more queer friends

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yelloworchid t1_is2v5b4 wrote

Honestly I've met the most women in Mt Airy/Manyunk area. Kinda just have to find one and network from there.

The shitty part about lesbians is they don't seem to gather in groups ) : pair off and get married and shit instead (guilty myself).

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annapepper t1_is2gmea wrote

If you like soccer, join CASA

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Lazerpop t1_is2vi5b wrote

I would hang out at the West Philly Farmers Market on Saturday mornings at Clark Park. Walk around and say hello to people.

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Live_for_flipflops t1_is3ms58 wrote

This probably isn't what you are thinking about but this place has different activities and groups. They are still getting things off the ground so keep checking back for the events https://www.sagahatboro.com/

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JediDrkKnight t1_is24kr4 wrote

I hate Facebook but, there might be a queer neighborhood FB group that you might be able to join. I know my neighborhood has a couple. It's obv not ideal but it could help.

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roguefiftyone t1_is28tlu wrote

They still doing queers on the avenue every month on Passyunk? Check that out

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okjkay t1_is2m5lq wrote

I happened upon this recently and it was mostly middle aged men.

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I_smoke_cum t1_is5i7tm wrote

Handful of the dating apps let you be a bit more selective, wish I had recommendations - baby trans girl would love some time out at a bar that didn't make me feel so damn awkward

Edit: down voted? The queer app I use is feeld but it's buggy and mostly for poly people

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afdc92 t1_is2m8sf wrote

What are your interests? Sports teams are always a good bet if that’s something you like, I guarantee most teams will have a number of queer women on them especially if it’s an all female team or league, and ESPECIALLY if it’s a sport that leans queer like soccer or rugby. If you’re not into sports, hanging out at coffee shops, thrift shops, plant shops (not even kidding) are great ways to meet queer women. Also art classes could be an option. As for the apps, don’t know how popular Her is in the city but it’s all gay/bi women so may weed out the couples looking for a third.

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and_another_username t1_is5eaj7 wrote

I drive past frequently. I always see a ton of trans women there. So no, it’s not “basically all men”

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eritated OP t1_is85mj4 wrote

... you only drive past and can tell there's lots of trans women? that's a little weird.

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mundotaku t1_is2etmt wrote

Isn't there an app for gay people? I think it is grinder?

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afdc92 t1_is2lo2i wrote

Grindr is for gay men.

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mundotaku t1_is2n2fy wrote

Oh, I thought it was for all LGTB. That is such a wasted opportunity from them.

Edit:Also I don't understand the down votes. I only wish to help with my little knowledge. Don't get angry, just educate if I or anyone is on the wrong.

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afdc92 t1_is2td0k wrote

There’s an app specifically for gay women called Her but not sure how popular it is here since I’m not on any apps. Others like Tinder or Bumble have options where you set yourself as interested in women but there’s obviously a smaller pool and a surprising number are actually straight couples looking for a third who set their profile as being interested in women.

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embersgrow44 t1_is30ky9 wrote

HER is dumb imo b/c to even sign up you have to link either FB or Instagram account

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No-name-no-ideas t1_is1yypa wrote

cant you just list yourself as a lesbian on dating apps?

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eritated OP t1_is1z4ai wrote

some of them, yeah. but there's a lot of men and couples who make their gender female on the app so we'll see them anyway. Plus there's just not a lot of women on dating apps overall.

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Glystopher t1_is2wsaa wrote

My roommate is a trans girl, are they on your radar? I’ve been out for 10 years and still I feel pain when anyone says “no like men, men suck” . Almost like the “fuck white people” thing but I’ve finally got over that and stopped taking it personally. You should know I treat Reddit like golf, lowest score wins, as I’ve realized how much I disagree with people. Imma go isolate now

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