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malcolm_miller OP t1_ispqkod wrote

Reply to comment by Cannedsardinesando in Sober events/meetups? by malcolm_miller

> Strange man taking me out for drinks but not drinking himself would be HUGE red flags.

100%. I will say that in a few cases of me not disclosing it, I've offered <activity> and people seem to be more comfortable grabbing a quick drink or two for a first date. When I mention I don't drink, I've been ghosted. Some people just prefer getting a drink because it eases the nerves and is simple. So a lot of my pre-disclosure experiences were getting ghosted anyway.

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amedelic t1_isqijvc wrote

I would highly recommend putting that you’re sober in your profile- weed out the bad matches ahead of time instead of anyone investing energy in someone who’s not a good fit for them.

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