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Burdy323 t1_istvnkb wrote

Reply to comment by Cannedsardinesando in Sober events/meetups? by malcolm_miller

Why would that make you uncomfortable?

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Cannedsardinesando t1_isvhbno wrote

I am going to assume this is a genuine question so I will take the time to answer you, but I’m muting this because I’ve had too many men try to fight with me online about the experience of being a woman:

Because this is a popular tactic for date rapists. They will buy you drinks or encourage you to drink while they remain sober or relatively sober so they can be more in control of the situation while you become more vulnerable, in order to more easily coerce you into having sex.

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Burdy323 t1_isvhrc3 wrote

Sure, that makes total sense, but if someone legitimately doesn’t drink like OP I don’t think they’re actively encouraging someone to get fucked up. Yeah if someone’s encouraging you to drink and insisting they buy the drinks I’d agree that’s suspicious

I think the real red flag in this situation is the pressuring, not someone being sober.

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