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TwistedAndFeckless t1_j5r8hiv wrote

As a fellow parent, that is amazing. :)

Learning the specific lesson of "Action -> Consequences" is critical to understand. This does not mean the punishment has to be harsh or over the top, as clearly this is purely an annoying type of punishment. :)

Good on you!

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Zestyclose_Foot_134 t1_j5vnvyq wrote

Whyyy can’t you learn it then? Is it really that ludicrous that you’ve learned something bad

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TwistedAndFeckless t1_j5wrppg wrote

Are you a parent?

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Zestyclose_Foot_134 t1_j61imff wrote

Nope, but as an autistic adult who learned so many unhealthy habits growing up, punishment shouldn’t always be the go to and something to be chuckled about

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TwistedAndFeckless t1_j61uiv7 wrote

As an adult ADHD, and with a child on the spectrum, I 100% agree.

I know, and practice daily, the soft/gentle verbal approach first to detail why I am unhappy with their actions, and the potential outcome of their actions. I want my kiddo to understand the reasoning, so that when my kiddo becomes an adult, he can have a happy and healthy life.

If my kiddo were to be on their phone until way past their bedtime, it would start off gentle at first (verbal only), and if the action continued despite my request and explanation, then my reaction slowly escalates. The next step would be disabling the wifi. Then, if it kept going, enforcing parental controls to limit the available hours of use. Lastly would be taking the phone away.

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