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McJumpington t1_je173nk wrote

What’s the 35k for- that’s way more than a funeral cost. Did he leave a child behind?

Edit- before downvotes- this is a genuine question. The gofundme has very little information and just a seemingly random money goal.

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Debordner t1_je1aekp wrote

Death costs a lot. My friend recently died and aside from the cremation and funeral, his shitty landlord wanted rent from his family, there’s moving and storage for their stuff, transportation for loved ones to the funeral, etc. It’s better for them to be prepared for all of it and not have to worry at all about money.

I’d imagine whatever isn’t used will be donated in his name.

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McJumpington t1_je1axlk wrote

Good point about the family - if you have half extended family several states away- it’d be great to cover their costs and lodging

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Debordner t1_je1bfvk wrote

Yeah, in my friend’s case we actually covered the basic services with a Gofundme, but his friends and family ended up paying thousands more for stuff like that. I hope Alex’s family at least doesn’t have to think about anything in that realm, this is so horrible and tragic.

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OcelotWolf t1_je1hhyn wrote

If I could somehow go back and spend my donation money on buying Alex drinks at the bar, I would have much rather done that. But now I can’t, so my donation was pretty much for anything that brings comfort to his family at this time… something to let them know that Alex mattered to me. If they could buy Alex’s life back for $35,000 I’m sure they’d do it in a heartbeat

Also, the goal was originally lower. I think once the goal is met, there’s an option to increase it. I don’t think there’s any sort of specificity in the goal amount. Just a target to shoot for

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McJumpington t1_je1wd2t wrote

Yeah- after looking at some responses, even if his family doesn't need all of it, it's great for them to not have to worry about anything during this.

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OcelotWolf t1_je2fx3m wrote

Pretty much my thoughts. No amount of money would possibly be enough to make up for their loss. If they run out of things to spend it on and want to donate it to a charitable cause, that’s awesome. If they want to keep it for themselves, that’s great too. No strings attached on my contribution.

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SabbyCo t1_je19q0m wrote

I think your question is fair. A lot of times in these fundraisers I see verbiage about the money helping to support the family in this difficult time. It could be for lost wages for a little while if he was sending some home, it could be for counseling which is not affordable for many people. I don’t think the money goal was explicitly calculated based on specific costs, but would be enough to cover other externalities of losing a loved one.

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giantcucumbergrower t1_je1jgso wrote

I understand you question.. It didn’t start that high, people keep contributing so the bar keeps being raised.

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McJumpington t1_je1w6b6 wrote

oh ok- I thought they randomly picked the 35. Still from a few other comments, it would be nice not to have to worry about bills and stuff if you need to take off to mourn.

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Evening_Ad_2906 OP t1_jegffbf wrote

The original goal was 20. Go fund me allows you to up the goal when the OG was reached. It reached so fast and so many were willing to give, my guess is they just upped it. Money can give his life back but it can help with anything they need to overcome the grief. I lost my father and when we got the insurance money it was just things like knowing "instead of $20 of gas I'll fill the tank" can put your mind in a better place.

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