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pacbyeo t1_jeezsmy wrote

Reply to comment by ThatFabulousBastard in CBS News: Hotel rooms for Anthrocon sell out in 24 hours by PierogiPowered

Everyone is treating you like shit in these comments and I hate it. I'm sorry for what happened to you and hope you find a way to heal.

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ThatFabulousBastard t1_jef1hnr wrote

Thank you for your kindness. It's okay though, I know how it goes and it's still important for me to inform others so they can make their own decisions.

I was an insecure gay kid that thought the furry fandom was the only place for me because weird/geek/lack of confidence...turns out that's what abusers are looking for. My abuser got away long ago, but after I left the fandom, one of the people I tried to warn others of went to jail for distributing videos of animals on children to popular furry circles in the Denver/Seattle.

I did heal thankfully. Good therapy, good family and friends, and determination. I know who I am now without a proxy identity. Leaving the parasocial social media sphere of it all did wonders for my mental health too.

And just to put a fine point on it, I don't hate furries and furry hate out-of-hand is wrong. I think people should be able to know the facts about what really goes on so they can come to a decision on their own. For me, that was "not all furries are bad people, but the furry fandom itself is lousy with sexual abuse and out of control paraphilic fetishism.

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pacbyeo t1_jef36dc wrote

I'm happy to hear things are better. It's good to come forward with what happened regardless of what people say. Especially for men. I feel like they don't often talk about SA. I didn't even know what anthrocon was so I'm not the target audience for the message but I did learn something.

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checkpoint_hero t1_jef1tak wrote

You can feel bad for someone and also downvote when they post essentially the same comment as a reply to every comment thread in the post

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pacbyeo t1_jef2f64 wrote

I'm pretty sure they are posting the same thing repeatedly because they don't feel heard. I'm sorry but I'm not about attacking SA victims. Just wanted to tell them that I heard them out.

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checkpoint_hero t1_jef4up2 wrote

It's not like I've seen a single comment outright attacking them. Some downvotes and people disagreeing with points and providing sourced information and their own personal experiences.

Again, downvotes are not attacking.

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LeoTheBirb t1_jefwwk2 wrote

Ugh, this user has a history. They used to troll on a furry discussion sub before getting banned for harassing the other users. This was after doing it for months.

They quite literally tracked down one of the users, somehow found an account they had on a weird porn website, and decided to post it on Reddit as a “gotcha”. I called them out for literally stalking someone and they DMd me a wall of text before blocking me.

Weirdest encounter I’ve ever had on this site.

They have a tendency to spam the same thing over and over and over.

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