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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3r60ow wrote

Reply to comment by Status_Silver_5114 in Apartment Hunting Advice by [deleted]

dexter park is a junkie homeless needle nightmare now. definitely nowhere near there.

OP--there is no compromise. providence is a shithole. anywhere you move, you will have altercations with strangers, people will break into your cars, your catalytic converters will be stolen, and there will be a constant stream during the summer of kids on illegal vehicles in large, loud, menacing groups just being annoying at large. moving across the river was one of the best decisions i ever made.

i know a bunch of the providence kids will show up and be like oh look the boomer is afraid of menacing teens on bikes! but who the fuck has the time for that shit. there is nothing to move here for. it's a 10 minute drive from much better places to live. don't get all RI brained thinking that is a long distance; it is not. just drive it if you insist on thinking there is stuff to do in pvd. you will save so much money and sanity that way.

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JohnProvidence t1_j3rbcv5 wrote

Good lord … you need to get a grip. You make it sound like Providence is some kind of war zone. I live near Dexter park, it’s nowhere near as bad as you make it. There are some unhoused people who use the park. In my experience they don’t bother anyone. I have yet to see a needle - not saying people don’t do drugs in the park, but I don’t see the evidence and I’m walking in/around that park daily. As for your other complaints - part and parcel of living in a city. Most people are fine/friendly. Some are loud, selfish, etc … The illegal dirt bike groups aren’t confined to Providence. You will find them in cities all over New England. They’re annoying, but not hard to just avoid.

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j468ylf wrote

I feel like you in particular need this one.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RhodeIsland/comments/10ah90g/in_very_desperate_need_of_emergency_housing/

THIS is the characteristic experience of a Providence resident, regardless of the bubble you're living in. And what you're gonna want to say is oh, these are neighbor problems, oh, these are landlord problems. My guy they are Providence problems, as well. This isn't how it goes down in other places.

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JohnProvidence t1_j46prk4 wrote

Jesus, get a hobby. Yes, some people have/had bad experiences in Providence but, one persons bad experience doesn’t make an entire city a shit hole. There are a plurality of opinions/experiences/feelings about PVD. I like it here. You don’t. Move on…

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3rkwzk wrote

I just moved from directly adjacent to Dexter park, idk what to tell you but you're talking about a fantasy world if you have yet to see a needle there. You can't smell the piss when you're walking around there either, can you? Sometimes folks are trying too hard to be progressive to actually experience the world around them.

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JohnProvidence t1_j3rmwig wrote

I think some people view the world as filled with threats and some people view the world as filled with people. You seem to fall into the former category. If you need to live outside of Providence for your peace of mind then please, by all means do so. Also, maybe think about how your perspective is kind of extreme and not representative of most of the experiences people have living in PVD.

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3rzmyb wrote

I am not surprised that user JohnProvidence didn't have this experience or that the current users of a forum dedicated to Providence don't broadly think it sucks.

But that does not make those characteristic experiences, this is a very particular subset of people commenting on this forum in the first place. And I can assure you most folks who have moved away and wouldn't bother thinking about r/providence now or ever have some variation on my experience as opposed to yours.

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decoysara t1_j3srw7v wrote

So what should we do about this, as a society, do you think?

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3t0crs wrote

I'm more of a housing first kind of guy. I don't think though the homeless problem can be successfully addressed given the current state of federal legislation on a variety of drugs that really form the bedrock of the non-economic elements of the problem.

But this post isn't about solving the homeless and drug problem in America. It's about whether this guy should move his admittedly scared girlfriend into an apartment next to Dexter Park. Not moving your ass into a problematic area is not exactly NIMBYism. And even if it were, that would not make it a good idea for OP.

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decoysara t1_j3t1p7f wrote

I get it, and my response wasn’t really necessary in this instance.

I feel like it is hard to tell how an area will be without spending some time there, and some people will find problems with anywhere/some will be OK anywhere. I don’t know why I decided to add to the internet conflict baiting machine, as I certainly do not wanna weigh in on anyone’s decision to live somewhere or not

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Keeks2021Moderna t1_j3shxdi wrote

Lady is so fired up she might as well own rebelle bagel. Take chill pill, I live in the area for 5 years and love it.

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jimmylstyles t1_j3rlfrb wrote

Yeah, bought a house in elmhurst annnnnd

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IM NOT FUCKING LEAVING

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whatcheerhere t1_j3r90vi wrote

Mids glass and mids opinions

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BabyTooph t1_j41ro87 wrote

Am I right in inferring that since you don’t agree with his (obviously wack) point of view, you perused his profile for something else to add to your insult? Weird time to be alive - hope you enjoy looking at my bike ;)

(I don’t mean this to be mean spirited or confrontational, just a tongue in cheek observation about something that seems peculiar to me, but deemed [acceptable/funny/a good takedown] by upvotes)

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whatcheerhere t1_j4myd0j wrote

Tbh it probably took you more time to type that than for me to clickity click on his profile. Also, this guy is a known troll.

Your bike is cool.

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BabyTooph t1_j4w2q4l wrote

Ahhh, even if it’s still sorta stooping to their level, the context of this person being a troll makes sense; i only pop my head in the comment sections from time to time and don’t tend to remember usernames.

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3r9irq wrote

i'm sorry it hurts your feelings so much to hear it but OP definitely needs to. he is gonna fuck up this poor girl's life because he thinks there's some kind of benefit to living in PVD. and you all are just gonna blow that smoke up his ass because you need to scam other folks into living there to feel better about your own bad life choices.

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Touchysaucer t1_j3rpz5a wrote

Lol fuck up her life? I had a blast living in the city in my 20s. Think they’ll be okay.

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Status_Silver_5114 t1_j3ratyt wrote

So move to EP with its abundance of trump signs and Gadsen flags and confederate flags? Ok. Noted. See what you’re going for there.

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Efficient_Bird_406 t1_j3ruebp wrote

This is so dumb lol… I’ve lived ALONE as a young woman in Fox Point (probably one of the safer options) on a busy street for 6 years and have never had a break in of my car or home, or any sort of violent interaction. I love living here and I still would even if crime upticked a little bit.

OP is looking for safeish neighborhoods, and that’s what people are recommending. That said, +1 vote for Fox Point.

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fiskeybusiness t1_j3raqts wrote

Best part about dab wooks is they act like smoking their 97% THC extract off a heated metal nail every hour on the dot so they can’t feel feelings doesn’t make them a junkie too

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BabyTooph t1_j41t9z1 wrote

Lol, you also went to this curmudgeon’s profile to find something irrelevant to insult them about? And stigmatize marijuana use / drug use in general with the term “junkie”??? This is a weird thread.

Good luck with the housing search - fox point or east side is probably where you want to look for the concerned lady to feel safest (and maybe you too if you were unironically using the term junkie for marijuana users & unhoused IV drug users). Bonus - the streets & sidewalks are cleaner. Cheap apartment on the west side was fine safety-wise, but the literal trash was a bummer to live around.

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fiskeybusiness t1_j41zh2w wrote

He called other people a junkie first, also he was being an asshole. If your an asshole expect asshole responses

Also no one stigmatizing weed usage lol he shouldn’t call other people junkies if he’s doing drugs too, idc how mild. That’s asshole behavior

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BabyTooph t1_j421b6a wrote

He definitely was an asshole and rightfully downvoted; people pulling irrelevant shit from his profile kinda reminds me of the adage about wrestling with a pig tho.

Good luck with the apartment hunt!

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3rko2r wrote

I'm sorry my post triggered you all so, so much that you want to talk personal shit on it. But seriously don't listen to these idiots enabling you to bring your girl to PVD, she will deeply hate it. You want to hear their perspective so you think they're good and right but they're baiting you into an awful decision. You want the "hippest" place to live in a dumpster and you're asking dumpster dwellers for advice, I get it. It's not gonna go well tho.

And if any of you think the dude who is saying move near Dexter park of ALL places in response to this post isn't either an idiot or a troll, god save you.

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ExtremeSnipe t1_j3rvkl5 wrote

>claims to trigger everyone

>is the one triggered

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3s074j wrote

there is a big difference between being direct and aggressive or using a hard tone, and being triggered.

can you not tell these posters are angry and triggered that I confidently stated that PVD sucks for reasons they don't agree with?

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lisa_stansfield_stan t1_j3sbh4m wrote

It's not just that people "don't agree," you're just objectively wrong. I've lived in four different neighborhoods over 13 years and no one has ever broken into my car or stolen my catalytic converter. Which you said will absolutely happen no matter where I move. I've had 13 wonderful years here, and I look forward to many more. Sorry that upsets you so much?

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Gronto1115 t1_j3s0642 wrote

screw all your other points why are you in the Providence subreddit of all places if you hate pvd so much?

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EasternOnion t1_j3tli6z wrote

you are right! funny to see all these yuppies pressed asf providence has gone downhill they are just too blind to see it.

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Dangerous_Public_164 t1_j3tpawk wrote

they're all online nearly 100% of the time and have no idea what it's actually like where they're living, if the comments in this post are to be taken at face value

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