Submitted by ThrowRaKokiele t3_11em9fj in relationship_advice
trees1nthewind t1_jaeumcl wrote
I do not advise moving to another country for a significant other, especially at such a young age. Do you see a future in South Korea or elsewhere? What happens if things don't work out with your bf? Moving to a place where you know no one besides one person can be extremely isolating.
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaev06p wrote
In future I would plan to live in Germany anyways, and incase of breakup I could still stay there.
trees1nthewind t1_jaev4td wrote
If you see yourself living there and that's a place of interest then no one can stop you
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaewg7a wrote
So in conclusion I should go there?
trees1nthewind t1_jaewpap wrote
Go if you are going more for your education. Of course being with your bf is a plus but shouldn't be the main reason. Also definitely consider being independent of him. Like living on your own, having your own friends, financially separated etc.
trees1nthewind t1_jaewtev wrote
Also your 18, these are not the best years neither are they the only best years of your life
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaey0sp wrote
When would the best years be then?
trees1nthewind t1_jaeyols wrote
Honestly that really depends on you because it's different for everyone. But 18 isn't really it for most people
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaezmvs wrote
Okay
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaexz55 wrote
I'd say the reason for going there would be 50/50 study and him. In there I would get other friends too of course but the problem with living on my own would be the living fees and all. I still wanna have freetime alongside studies and not spend it all on working. During university I have worked part-time alongside studying and it just is way too tireing.
trees1nthewind t1_jaeylt6 wrote
How would you support yourself financially then? Rely on your parents on him? Honestly for me 50/50 is not good enough of a ratio.
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaezlkn wrote
I don't know how I could support myself financially yet. And what do you mean by "Rely on your parents on him?" I don't understand the meaning of this sentence.
trees1nthewind t1_jaezrca wrote
Rely on your parents or on him. Just misspelled a word.
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaf0l1h wrote
I honestly don't know, at the same time I'd feel guilty at the fact how much my parents would have to pay for my university in South Korea
trees1nthewind t1_jaf0sl7 wrote
So list out some pros and cons other than your bf and come back an reexamine whether you want to go.
ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaf14gw wrote
I'd say going to Germany has more pros and less cons than staying in Korea. In Germany Could study with no tution fees and the education level there is good + I anyways plan to live there at some point in life.
trees1nthewind t1_jaf1adj wrote
You make the judgement because you know your life best. At the end of the day whether you go or not it will be up to you. We're just here to give you some food for thought.
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