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Interesting-Month-56 t1_jaewga2 wrote

You do not want to move to Germany and move into his house. That’s a great way to get trapped.

I suggest you move to Germany only if you have an independent reason to move to Germany, like you want to go to school there or have job prospects.

Here are some red flags:

  • you are not even in college and he’s saying these are the “best years”. They aren’t. Your “best years” are ahead of you and will comprise a lifetime.

  • you’ve been dating long distance for three years. There is no substitute for IRL interaction. Basically a long distance relationship with limited IRL interaction is the same thing as getting set up on a blind date when it comes to dating.

  • you don’t have any plans to become an independent person regardless of what happens. If you can’t be independent, you ae going to be a poor partner for your future mate.

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ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaexen4 wrote

We have met multiple times during we have dated and I am planning to move to Germany anyways at some point in life since it's my biggest dream to live in there. I don't see what others time could be the best years in life than the years in university since during university life there is still relatively much freetime and all.

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