Who's crazier him(54M) or I (45F)?

Submitted by Capital-Beginning241 t3_11einkb in relationship_advice

I was pursued by a sweet, kind gentleman. After some quality time together I find out he is begging the ex who is toxic to marry him. He apologized and swears to block her and be committed to only me. "I'm beautiful, sweet, a good woman and he's so much happier with me around, I love you baby" etc... Well he's outta town and back on dating websites.. The universe saw fit he hit up a friend of mine... Yet, he misses me, wishes he was home with me etc.... Knowing the BS I've dealt with in my life, this is what he does. What kind of man does this to a woman who's been honest, kind, compassionate?!?! I fought hard to let my guard down and give him a chance. I felt he was a good egg..

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ags1977 t1_jae8653 wrote

He's gaslighting you. At least you know now and not deeper into the relationship. Break it off and try and find someone who respects you and isn't trying to play the field

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SnooSongs6848 t1_jae8i2g wrote

He’s playing you sweetie and has no respect for you

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Capital-Beginning241 OP t1_jaf4yw6 wrote

Which ultimately shows he has no respect for himself. Funny he treats his make friends with the utmost respect.

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A_Supertramp_1999 t1_jae862t wrote

You’re crazy for staying with him after all the BS. Ps it’s him or me, not him or I.

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NDaveT t1_jae9jqv wrote

I think it would be "he or I".

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