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o0Ambrosia0o t1_jabwgh7 wrote

Reply to comment by bellajojo in Me (28f) can't keep living with my Husband (29m) like this anymore. by [deleted]

I just felt like he was empathetic before covid and everything. And sometimes I can see that empathy. Just not recently. Thank you for your comment.

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GlitzToyEternal t1_jac92jr wrote

I wonder if he could have a bit of caregiver burnout? If he was good a few years ago, maybe he's running on empty.

It could be worth a conversation about how he is supported to support you - does he have a good network? Could you get a cleaner so he isn't picking up so much housework if you're not able to do things? Do you have friends or family who might be able to do some of the things he currently does to help you/your household?

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o0Ambrosia0o t1_jacaqcf wrote

He doesn’t do the housework if I’m too sick. It stacks up until it gets mouldy and ants get into it. That’s why I have to still clean with goopy eyes. He doesn’t come with me to appointments or feed me or anything like that. If he does have burnout though it’s probably from work.

His mother is kind of awful. I really don’t want to get too into it but she’s very self focused on what upsets her. My own family lives too far away to help. Thanks for your comment though. 👍

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