You just posted this same thing a week ago. You aren’t dating. He’s a friend and a nice one. But. Please see a therapist so you will be ready when someone comes along that is interested romantically.

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I think you've been through a lot that has put your sense of self worth way down in the gutter.

Your grandfather from the sounds of it is a cruel cruel man you'd be better off never speaking too.

There are people out there who will see you and value you, you might not seem "special" but to them you are.

Get away from your grandfather and get yourself into therapy.

Because he sees the person behind the flaws. We all have something about us that isn't perfect. It sounds like he wants to comfort you. This is a guy I wouldn't toss aside. He thinks your special, and that's definitely worth something. Sometimes it takes another person's perspective to see what makes us special.

I wouldn't start dating right now as I think you're not ready. I think you need to determine whether or not you're trying to force something that isn't there because of your grandpa. I suggest therapy.

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Because your grandpa treated you like crap doesn't mean you are. We are all special in our own ways.

Just remember you make an impact on other individuals lives no matter how big or small. Don't dismiss his kindness.