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punkrockcockblock t1_jae8hm2 wrote

That much pain is not normal, even for a first time.

Please consider seeing a doctor for an exam. There are a number of conditions that can affect the ability to have sex comfortably.

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the_Chocolate_lover t1_jaeav86 wrote

It may hurt for a few seconds, but otherwise it should be generally pleasant (may not climax at the beginning, but that just needs practice). You pain is way too much, definitely see a doctor!

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BurnedPotatoe t1_jaebai2 wrote

Best to go to a OBGYN. That amount of pain is not normal. Could be vaginism, vulvodinia or something else. Don't have sex if it hurts, though. It should be a pleasant experience

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaem1o4 wrote

It doesn’t does not always hurt that way I was using voice recognition in it auto corrected it. I am so sorry I’m gonna go and delete that. The first time after that it doesn’t.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jae71ck wrote

If you want to have sex, it’s a necessity. And we all went through it anybody that’s a girl that ever had sex went through it. It hurts the first for me a little bit the second time and then no more and it’s better than fingers.

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buon_natale t1_jaek7yp wrote

My first time didn’t hurt at all. It’s not SUPPOSED to hurt. Be a little uncomfortable, perhaps, but not cause agonizing pain. Please stop spreading misinformation.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaemydt wrote

Well, I’m glad your first time didn’t hurt, but we were told that when we were young and most every woman I know has some level of pain attached to it because you’re breaking a hymen. Period.

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buon_natale t1_jaeonj4 wrote

Hymens don’t break. It’s not a barrier, otherwise we wouldn’t pass anything during our periods. This belongs on r/badwomensanatomy

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaeqzdq wrote

It also seems to old are you are when your virginity is lost the harder it can get I’m speaking of the hymen now

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaeqq9b wrote

In regard to the hymen, it is a lot more complicated. You are absolutely correct, but it’s not as simple as you’re making it seem. Different people have them different sizes some Harden as they get older there’s all kinds of variables but you’re right it’s not as clear cut as I was always taught. There’s something else.

The first time vaginal sex can be uncomfortable and sometimes painful, but that’s absolutely normal and that is taken from a medical site. Some women may even bleed during the first time in sex. Which goes to my point, which is what this young woman was talking about which is the first time is usually painful for most women. I have never met a woman that said it wasn’t so you are very lucky and good for you .

Also, thank you because I lost my virginity so long ago I didn’t pay any attention and I had boys, so I never had to deal with it. So you learn something every day. But the home is a lot more complicated than you’re making it and it does stretch across from some women, but most women you’re right it doesn’t go all the way across the vagina. Which explains why you can use tampons most women, one and 200 count by the way thank you again.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaewxhh wrote

Check out medical news today. It has a lot of useful information and they actually said the hymen does make a difference so I don’t think the jury is on out honest truth is it will get better you will enjoy sex.

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[deleted] OP t1_jae7tva wrote

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punkrockcockblock t1_jae8wlm wrote

>But it always hurts that way.

No it absolutely does not.

OP was screaming in pain; that is NOT normal.

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deemsterporn t1_jaeemvf wrote

maybe they have a low threshold for pain or are dramatic how are we to know

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