For context, I’ve been seeing this girl for almost 6 months. I met her at a bar that I work at as a bouncer. Some of you are probably groaning, understandably. My job puts me in a lot of contact with drunk women. I’m pretty attractive and very social and have been working the clubs in this city a few years now, so most of the customers know by now that I’m who they need to talk to if they have issues. They also know I’ve been seeing this woman for a while as she’s usually in the club with me at least one day every weekend. Most women who hit on me leave me alone after I tell them I have a girlfriend, and those that don’t, I move away from. I’ve tried my hardest to be understanding of her insecurities - her exes weren’t great to her. I’ve been honest about the times I wasn’t great to mine, which was probably a bad idea, but I’ve never wanted to hide anything from her. I’ve tried to make her understand I can’t just be a dick to women at my job. She thinks this is me entertaining them and that I love female attention, because anytime a dude hits on her at the club, she acts mean as hell to her them to leave her alone. Over the course of knowing her I’ve cut off people (read: female friends) that she felt were too flirty with me. Some of them I disagree with but some really were doing too much. I truly care about my girlfriend and decided our relationship was more important than a ‘club friend.’ We’ve been off and on and constantly the underlying issue has been that I entertain other women too much and always have hoes in my phone. I will admit there were times when things legitimately looked bad because of the nature of my job, but I have never cheated on her nor have I flirted with another woman since I met her. Every time she pointed out how I was causing her to doubt the relationship, I did what I could to reassure her. It has gotten to a point where I showed her my Snapchat friends list after she accused me of having a streak with another woman (yes, I’m aware of how childish this is starting to sound) and after no streaks came up, she got angry that I was friends with so many women on Snapchat. She says all of this would end if I posted her to my social media, which I had planned on for Valentine’s Day, except … about a week before, while I was out hanging with some friends, she decided to start an argument and eventually I stopped responding, after which my phone died. A couple hours later when I get my phone back on, I have umpteen missed calls from old girl and 4 missed calls from my mother…you guessed it. She called my mom and told her I was cheating. I also received a text from a random number threatening to share pictures of me and things I shared in confidence to “expose me.” The more I type this out the stupider I feel for staying with her, but I really think she hung the moon, I just wish I could make her understand that I only have eyes for her. I don’t even know how to move forward to a break up, because now I’ve been threatened..either I break up with her and deal with the fallout from that, or I stay and deal with a constant stream of accusations when, by her own words, I’m the best boyfriend she’s ever had. Can someone give me some guidance on where to go from here?