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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jadzgkd wrote

Not sure what advice you’re after. You’re an adult and she doesn’t get to tell you what you can or cannot do. She can end a relationship if she is unhappy with things but she doesn’t get to dictate how you spend your free time.

It’s dancing. No one is going to slip and fall on a dick during a dance class.

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ThrowRAma12345 OP t1_jaelpx1 wrote

Advice on how to deal with the situation. Because we obviously do not want to end things. And I don’t want to hurt her. But I still think it’s an unfair ask.

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Pk2216 t1_jaersso wrote

Just talk to her about her insecurities and reassure her. Tell her that her request is too far, but you are willing to set boundaries so she will feel better.

Boundaries for her comfort are your choice and are not forced.

She can't stop you from having a female dance partner because that may not be your choice. But

You can tell her you will inform any woman you dance with that you are in a committed relationship.

Tell her that you will make the choice not to interact with women from the class outside the class.

You can also see if their are classes that are men only.

You can see if she is willing to be there because it's something you want to do, but she does not have to partake in the class.

Present options to her and tell her that your hobby isn't her choice but that you are willing to try and make things more comfortable for her.

If she is unwilling to work with you, her insecurities should be discussed with a therapist because they are interfering with her and her partners life.

Edit: This is all a moot point if she enjoys herself anyway.

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