Pk2216 t1_jaersso wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRAma12345 in [M35] I want to take dancing lessons and go to dance nights. My wife [F33] says that I either go with her or never go. Even if she decides to never go herself. by ThrowRAma12345
Just talk to her about her insecurities and reassure her. Tell her that her request is too far, but you are willing to set boundaries so she will feel better.
Boundaries for her comfort are your choice and are not forced.
She can't stop you from having a female dance partner because that may not be your choice. But
You can tell her you will inform any woman you dance with that you are in a committed relationship.
Tell her that you will make the choice not to interact with women from the class outside the class.
You can also see if their are classes that are men only.
You can see if she is willing to be there because it's something you want to do, but she does not have to partake in the class.
Present options to her and tell her that your hobby isn't her choice but that you are willing to try and make things more comfortable for her.
If she is unwilling to work with you, her insecurities should be discussed with a therapist because they are interfering with her and her partners life.
Edit: This is all a moot point if she enjoys herself anyway.
ThrowRAma12345 OP t1_jaf2krr wrote
Thank you. That is actually useful advice
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