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YoProfWhite t1_jabxd0o wrote

Sorry dude, you don't own her. If it bothers you this bad, the best you can do is leave her.

In this case, you are in the wrong. You sound overly controlling and petty. Yuck.

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dtorre t1_jabxf8y wrote

you either break up with her over it, or you stop trying to control her.

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jimineyy t1_jabxnvw wrote

She has every right to her body but you have every right for your boundaries. There are plenty of girls that won’t dress like that and will align with your ideas. But only pushing the issue further might make you seem controlling.

If she has not done anything wrong and has not really posted nudes, then bikini pictures are quite normal. You have to tell her how you feel but also accept the answer she gives.

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anuglytoe t1_jacbyzj wrote

Seems fair to me. The boundary has been set.

I wouldn't like it either.

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gettingby02 t1_jacclry wrote

You approached this from the wrong direction. Instead of talking to her about the photos and asking why she likes posting them, you automatically assumed that it was to gain attention. All social media posts are for attention -- attention is not much of an answer to why she posts what she posts. If it makes you uncomfortable, you should've told her this and asked her to stop / remove the pictures without making it seem like she's an attention-seeker. Stating your own boundaries and asking her to respect them doesn't need to involve attacks on her person.

If it's a dealbreaker and she refuses to respect that boundary, then the two of you are just incompatible, and you should find someone who has more similar values. Try to reduce your own controlling / insecure behavior and work on healthy communication skills as well so that your relationship with her (or someone else) can be more healthy.

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